BDSM


Navigating the Waters of BDSM 43 comments

Navigating the Waters of BDSM While I cannot and will not call myself an expert at all things related to kink and BDSM, I’ve been around the block, I’ve seen things I wish I hadn’t, not taken a chance to do things I should have, and have come to understand that to have a really great kinky lifestyle you can’t be closed minded or opposed to listening and learning. I’ve experienced a wide range of fetishes, kinks, and people who take on the many faces under the cloak of BDSM. I’ve been involved in long term power exchange relationships, all of which had their share of great, good, and bad, and have a pretty good radar for sensing crap. That unfortunately doesn’t mean my exploration in BDSM or finding a partner with whom I could connect was ever easy. As a Mistress and sadist, I’ve had submissives both female and […]


Is All BDSM Sexual? #KinkySex 48 comments

  When you search the internet for kink or BDSM, what you get are stories, video clips, and photos that scream sex, sex, sex! Those who are looking to read about kink by finding a good BDSM novel are looking for hot scenes of spanking, submission, female domination, a slave girl serving her master, or some other form of D/s or M/s relationship where the story has romance, BDSM encounters, and sex. I will admit that my own books, whether they are the historical romances or the collections of short BDSM stories include spanking, kinky play and, you guessed it. Sex! Sex sells, sex is stimulating to our base primal nature, sex arouses us and makes us feel alive, but despite all the in your face sex that comes with most anything commercial in the media that isn’t non-fiction, is all BDSM really sexual? When I first discovered kink I […]


Guest Post: Gender Identity and BDSM Roles by Joelle Casteel 5 comments

Joelle is a fellow BDSM Erotica author. Her stories don’t replicate the most often pairing of M/f roles, and neither does she. In this day and age of the slow acceptance of different gender identities other than male and female, and the ‘normal’ heterosexual couples being joined by homosexual, bisexual, and lesbian couples at the alter and on Main street, those in society who thumb their noses and spit upon those who refuse to be made by a cookie cutter are having to peddle their hate elsewhere. There is no normal anymore, so they’d better get over it.    Gender Identity and BDSM Roles Let me start off with a story of something that pissed me off this morning – BDSM book group, someone posts about a couple (I forget if genders were mentioned) with sub being lead on leash and collar. One person in part (I didn’t read all, […]


Are You Primal Enough for Anal Sex? 6 comments

It’s Wednesday once again and it’s time to crawl, and it’s BDSM, so we like it. With whips and chains, and sometimes duct tape. So get on your knees and start crawling! The Dungeon Crawl is brought to you each week by the folks at Romancing The Kink. Excerpt from Primal Cravings: A Collection of Anal Erotica Olivia has been away from the Chicago BDSM scene since the ending of her long term D/s relationship. Her friend Rachel convinced her to attend Kinky Kollege, saying it was time to get back out there and be with friends again. Anal is a hard limit for Olivia, but Rachel dragged her to a class on anal play. Now she simply can’t get the image of Gideon, the presenter, fucking his demo partner in the ass, out of her head. She wandered around the dungeon only to answer the pull of her desires, […]


BDSM Rituals and Routines 5 comments

If you’ve been here before or read any of my posts in the BDSM archive, then you know I’m big on writing about the responsibility of the dominant’s role in any BDSM relationship be it domestic discipline, Master and slave, babygirl/Daddy, or whatever your dynamic. Dominant doesn’t mean you sit back and your slave or submissive does everything and you do nothing. It means you are taking on the responsibility for the life of another human being so you’d better be ready to work hard. If they are yours, you must care for them as they serve you. I’m also one who tells people if things aren’t going well, if your submissive is not obeying you, if your slave is acting out or your babygirl is having tantrums, then take a long look at yourself and the world or relationship you have established for the both of you. One of […]


Author Spotlight on Christina Mandara

  Book Blurb: Meet Jenny. She’s rich, spoiled, rude and obnoxious. She’s also just been signed up for the BDSM ride of her life – without her consent. An intensive training course at the Albrecht Stables is not what it appears to be and training to become a human pony was not on Jenny’s to-do list. The trouble is, how do you escape when you’re tied up, gagged and constantly sexually aroused? Which Master or Mistress do you turn to for rescue? And what do you do if you suspect you might actually be enjoying yourself? This is Jenny’s adventure into the world of BDSM and pony play. She’s about to find out just how much effort it takes to become a pony girl and that she has no choice but to excel in every aspect of her training or she may never stand a chance of being released from […]


What is That For?

It’s time to crawl again, so get on your knees. Wednesday is Dungeon Crawl day. Floggers, paddles, canes, wands, what are those for and why do you have so many? My dungeon is full of toys. Tomorrow’s dungeon crawl will cover the types of toys and what they are for. I have lots of floggers, a wide variety of paddles, canes galore, and more. Why do I need so many, what the heck is that thing, and what are those pointy things for? Tune in tomorrow for an explanation of all things BDSM toys.


Author Spotlight on Penelope Syn #Kinky

Penelope Syn’s Author Bio “I am a slightly crazy girl and I often get tied up in things, and I know I don’t see the world the way other people do. I’ve always been a keen observer of people and relationships, and I have seen some very interesting things, and done a few! I love to write out my fantasies, desires, and dreams, and I firmly believe that just because something is different or unusual doesn’t make it bad; all that matters are love and respect. I hope you like them too, and maybe they open a window for you to see things a little bit differently too. Stay safe!” How I got into writing erotica…I’ve always been a bit of a nerd, really, and I’ve always tinkered with writing while I worked in IT. Many years ago I collaborated with a friend on a serious writing project that ended up going […]


His Lordship’s Wayward Wife #CoverReveal

A new kinky historical romance by Jolynn Raymond Coming June of 2014 Claudia Stafford lived a life of luxury in Victorian England. She was a rebellious and spoilt girl who thought only of herself, treating those below her station with contempt. After discovering the power of her womanly charms, she used them to her every advantage, spurning any suitors her mother deemed appropriate, in favor of those who offered excitement regardless of scandal. When her father returns from his job overseas, her life is suddenly turned upside down. Married to an Earl and shipped across the country, Claudia find herself in the role of those whom she has disdained. She is expected to be subservient and obedient, and saying no brings consequences Claudia never dreamed of. As the wife of a man who belongs to a secret society that takes the role of the dominant husband to new heights, Claudia is expected to be submissive in all […]