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The Ignorance of Gender Intolerance The definition of tolerance in Webster’s Dictionary is: Willingness to accept feelings, habits, or beliefs that are different from your own. I think the idea of tolerance get a lot of lip service, especially in the kink community and in the twenty something crowd, but I’m not so sure this acceptance of feelings or habits different than yours has truly been embraced, even by those of us who consider themselves tolerant of others and their differences. My generation didn’t grow up truly being taught to be tolerant of people unlike ourselves. It was in my home, but that wasn’t the norm. My parents were front runners for their generation when it came to acceptance of those with a skin color that wasn’t white. We didn’t have African American kids bused to our school until I was in 3rd grade, and even then; they had a […]

The Ignorance of Gender Intolerance



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Seriously? Kinky People Use Special Manners? by Jolynn Raymond Consider this a public service announcement on etiquette. I know I have written on the subject of what newbies into kink need to know, and I also know I’ve mentioned manners, but as new people arrive in my kink community every day, this needs to be addressed so those who are not in the know can be enlightened. If you’re poking around on Fetlife or Collarspace (<— Not a good place), you need manners even though those you meet on Collarspace may very well not be who they say. Collarspace is not a great go to place to meet real people into kink. Sorry, I could regress for hours on that evil. What I want you to know is: When approaching a woman on the internet be they a submissive or a dominant. DON’T hit on them with purely sexual emails, […]

Seriously? Kinky People Use Special Manners?


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Photo courtesy of Tabitha Rayne Welcome to Elust #72 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #73? Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Broken Invisible Pride: Bi Erasure Disabled Gentleman ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Erotic Fiction: “Passerby” Overcoming resistance ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* #AskELJames: The Poignant & Profitable Martyrdom of E.L. James All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the […]

Elust #72 Is Here! #SexBloggers


Jolynn & Beauty's Marriage License 16 comments

Six Days and Counting #Wedding Our household is in a mad frenzy and it looks like a UPS truck exploded in our living room. The cats have never had so many boxes to play in. Why the crazy mess you ask? We are getting married in just six days! That’s it. In six days I will take Beauty to be my lawfully wedded wife. We were joined as Mistress and submissive in a beautiful ceremony that forever bound us in the eyes of the kink community, and we are legal domestic partners (Beauty hates that word!), but now we will be wife and wife, and no one can deny us the rights marriage brings. She will be mine to have and to hold, to honor and protect, to care for in sickness and in health, and to be by my side for two forevers, along with the health insurance […]

Six Days and Counting #Wedding



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SCOTUS According to Jack So marriage equality is finally here, by order of the SCOTUS. I for one am extremely thrilled while still being mindful of the fact that there is still work to do in the various spheres of human rights. But it is a huge victory for US citizens that there is now formal acknowledgement and legitimacy of same sex marriage. The ruling does not particularly affect me on an individual level. I’m already married. Marriage Equality was recognized in my state last year and prior to the ruling, Marriage Equality existed in some form or another in 37 states prior to the ruling. It does affect many of my friends and loved ones, however, some of whom have been with their partners for decades, but have been unable to so much as visit them in the hospital when they are ill. I spend a lot of […]

SCOTUS According to Jack


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Bullying Isn’t Just a Kid’s Sport Do you remember that kid when you were little, the one everyone avoided because if you caught his or her eye it meant impending doom? Maybe you were witness to or experienced first-hand the group of mean girls who thought they were better than everyone else was, and made life hell for the nerdy, shy people. What about the big kid who teases or beats up those weaker day after day, did you know him? Then there is the stereotypical group of jocks who stuff the loner or geek in his locker. I know, that particular act of bullying happens more often than not in the movies instead of real life, but it is an unfortunate reality that bullies exist, and there are a lot of people who can vouch for the cruelties of them. All of the above are profiles of bullies, but […]

Bullying Isn’t Just a Kid’s Sport


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Photo courtesy of The Shingle Beach Welcome to Elust #71 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #72? Start with the rules, come back July 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Backyard Glory Bra Wars Versions of Ourselves ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Disabled characters: who do I write them for? How Can You Think About Sex Right Now? ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* Three All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo […]

Elust #71 Is Here! #SexBloggers



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Vanilla to Kink, the Sultry and the Sordid Best Lesbian Erotica 2015 ~ Edited by Laura Antinou Beauty’s Book Review As always, my opinion is my own and a paperback of the Best Lesbian Erotica 2015 was given to me by the good folks at Cleis Press. I started reading lesbian erotica regularly when I was in my twenties, and had two big stacks of books on and around my night stand just filled with lesbian anthologies, as I would read in bed. I liked Laura Antoniou’s introduction to the book telling of her first call for submissions twenty years ago. You actually had to put an ad in the paper, have authors write letters with their submission included, or use the phone to let people know what was needed. No internets for you then. The first sight I had of any computer with some sort of ‘internet’ connection was […]

Beauty’s Book Review ~ Best Lesbian Erotica 2015 ~ Edited ...


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J.M. Dabney’s Club Revenge Book Tour Thank you Jolynn for letting me share my novel with you today. Club Revenge (Dysfunction at its Finest, Book 1) is a Dark Fantasy Paranormal with hints of horror. I primarily write Lesbian Fiction/Romance, yet I enjoy writing the darker and sometimes gorier stories. In CR I was able to let my love of carnage and inappropriate humor off the leash. This book along with the others to follow are the stories I’ve always wanted to tell. The Medina-Jackyl family made me cry, maniacally cackle and roll my eyes. The Asylum Residents aka The Family forgot I’m supposed to be the Warden as they tended to take over—outlines be damned. In CR layers are peeled back, exposing depths of pain, rage, and love until it reveals all their secrets. Contained within the pages of CR exist conspiracy theories, Dark Age prophesies, cults, shifters, vampires, […]

J.M. Dabney’s Club Revenge Book Tour


Tenderness. Sentiment. Daydreaming Woman with Teddy Bear Laying 6 comments

A Collection of Posts Explaining The Daddy/ lg/ Babygirl Dynamic #AdultSexEdMonth  The Daddy/ babygirl Dynamic This piece is written by a close friend, RWE. He has a great deal of experience with Daddy Dom/babygirl relationships, and was eager to share his knowledge in an effort to provide a clear and intelligent voice on this often misunderstood relationship. Being Her Daddy/ Being His babygirl  John Brownstone and his babygirl Kayla explain how their dynamic works in a Daddy/ little girl relationship. I originally got the idea of doing guest posts from reading John’s article from his blog, and asked Kayla if she could write a companion piece to go along with it. RWE‘s post focused on his roll of Daddy, this piece tells both sides.  Daddy and Babygirl Relationships by Paul Rulof (Rule of Three) While we have had several other Daddy/babygirl posts, the subject seems to be popular, and I have had […]

A Collection of Posts Explaining The Daddy/ lg/ Babygirl Dynamic ...