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My Interview with Jon Pressick From Sex in Words

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This post should have the above title, but it should also have an added bit called The Truth About Gerome T. Gnome. Yes, the truth about our gnome better known as Gerome_the_Gnome on Fetlife has finally come out. Be prepared for some seriousness and some silliness, as I spill on the truth about Gerome, our gnome. You can see his Fetlife profile if you click above. Many thanks to Jon Pressick, both for doing the interview, and giving the okay to repost it here. Take time to check out his blog Sex in Words. He’s a well known sex blogger who has interesting articles and interviews on his site. Click here to take a peek. Below is my interview with Jon. 1. How did you get into sex blogging? I’ve been kinky for a good long time. I’m also a person who advocates getting out and meeting people in the local […]

Being Her Daddy / Being His babygirl 41 comments

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Being Her Daddy/ Being His Babygirl This is the second in the series of guest posts that we will be doing on this blog every Thursday. John Brownstone and his babygirl Kayla explain how their dynamic works in a Daddy/ little girl relationship. I originally got the idea of doing guest posts from reading John’s article below from his blog, and asked Kayla if she could write a companion piece to go along with it. While last week’s post by RWE focused on his roll of Daddy, this piece tells both sides. Comments are encouraged, discussion is fabulous, anything bordering on rude will be deleted. Please respect the dynamic these two people have chosen for themselves. Have an open mind, learn something new, and help spread the word about the very positive relationships and aspects of BDSM. On Being Her Daddy I want to start out right from the beginning and tell […]

Creating Balance in Your Domestic Discipline Relationship #WickedWednesday 26 comments

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Because the prompt for Wicked Wednesday was balance, I decided to repost this article which sums up the need for balance in any D/s relationship. The people who are involved in domestic discipline and power exchange relationships will often tell those who question their lifestyle choice that the addition of structure and discipline has brought them much closer. While there will always be naysayers and those who remain skeptical, those of us who live in these types of relationships will undoubtedly insist that it’s true. The act of giving guidance, creating structure, holding someone accountable, seeing to their every need including the need for discipline, creates a special bond. There are no long periods of resentment, unresolved anger, or holding on to things that fester and gnaw at a relationship. Issues arise, they are handled in a way that both people find not only acceptable, but desirable, and the problem […]

The Act of Collaring 29 comments

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Beauty’s Collar and Wedding Ring The act of collaring one’s submissive or slave has many variations to some, and only one true way to others. Whether you find yourself in the meet today, collar tomorrow crowd, or the collaring is very serious business crowd, it is a subject and act that can spawn much debate. As always, my views are simply my views, expressed in a way that will hopefully educate and enlighten my readers. Your mileage may vary, in fact it should to some extent because the act of collaring is a very personal one. When I met my wife Beauty, I’d had several long term M/s relationships prior to her, but I never collared any of those ladies. While it’s true, they had a play collar worn during kinky play and jewelry that was special because it represented our relationship, they never received a collar. To be honest, I am […]

The Daddy/ babygirl Dynamic 30 comments

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The Daddy/ babygirl Dynamic This is the first of the guest posts I will be featuring on my blog in an effort to help others understand the dynamics of relationships or kinks people tend to misinterpret. My goal is not to spark debate, though polite comments are welcome. What I want is to increase our tolerance for things we don’t understand. This piece is written by a close friend, RWE. He has a great deal of experience with Daddy Dom/babygirl relationships, and was eager to share his knowledge in an effort to provide a clear and intelligent voice on this often misunderstood relationship.   Did You Call Him Daddy? First I would like to thank two dear friends of mine for giving me the opportunity to write and share my perspective and experience on endearing and beautiful relationship of Daddy/babygirl and its dynamics.  I want to make clear that this is […]

We Are Not Broken 20 comments

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A couple of weeks ago I clicked on an ad on Fetlife.com that wanted people to take a survey about their involvement in kink. Out of curiosity and hoping for a chance to open some eyes at whatever university was seeking the information, I went ahead with it. Page after page had questions about giving and receiving pain, liking humiliation, having multiple sex partners. Nearly every single question, which was multiple choice or providing a rating of 1 – 5, centered on past abuse, substance abuse, being sexually promiscuous, and assumed every kink or fetish they listed was tied to sex. I forged ahead, becoming disgusted, but being determined because of my hope that there would be a box for comments. In the end there was, and I really did my best to clear things up, but the whole thing left me angry and annoyed that this university of supposedly highly […]

Why You Should Accept “Those” Kinks 30 comments

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First I want to thank everyone who liked the BDSM and Aftercare post. It really took a great tour around the blogging world. It showed me that yes, Google’s new approach is working to get things out there, but those interested in kink and the importance of safety and knowledge do the job best. So again, thank you all for sending the Aftercare post hopping about. I have contacted several friends and invited them to write guest posts for this blog on subjects that I either have no experience with, or don’t feel I can speak in a voice that rings true. For those of us who live a kinky lifestyle, what we do, and who we are is part of the fabric woven into our lives. It doesn’t represent us, and it isn’t all there is to us, but it certainly is part of who we are. Along with […]

Aftercare and BDSM Play 94 comments

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Aftercare and BDSM Play I am a strong advocate of aftercare when engaging in BDSM play. What we do for recreation not only affects the body, but also affects the mind. Whether I play intimately with my wife, high impact with my play partner who is tough as nails, or am topping a friend who wishes to learn techniques or experience something new, I always provide aftercare. The only time I would not, would be if in the pre scene negotiations, and someone told me they wish to be left alone in their space. Even then, I wouldn’t feel it was just okay to put them out of my mind and I would make certain to learn what is their normal routine and usual activities after play. I will say right now that not every dominant or top believes in, or provides aftercare. Some feel, “Hey you, clean and put away […]

The Do Me Sub 6 comments

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  The Do Me Sub   When having a conversation with other dominants or reading the posts on the Fetlife Mistress forum, the subject of the ‘do me sub’ always pops up. The ‘do me’ submissive does exist with women submissives, and I know men deal with this on occasion, but as a whole, women are more pliable and accepting of learning their dominants wants and needs. It is for this reason that in my opinion it is a bigger factor when female dominants are searching for a male submissive. I do not think the concept is due to men being more selfish in relationships, I think it is because men don’t really understand what it is a mistress really is looking for in a submissive. I am going to outline what it is I would seek in several different categories of submissives. This is not an ad for a submissive. I am […]