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Figging In The Dungeon 19 comments

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It’s that time again for the Dungeon Crawl. Let’s get crawling! What do you get when you take one set of cotton split bloomers, a camisole, a sturdy rattan cane or birch bundle, and a freshly peeled knob of ginger for figging? Why Victorian role play of course. Role playing Victorian can be a delightfully kinky scene that involves funishment of a few different kinds. I always use my canes, have my submissive wear the pretty frilly set of split bloomers and camisole, and use figging as part of the ‘punishment’. The bloomers can be bought on Ebay. They are slit from front to back and are essentially two piece that are held together by a ribbon. They can be spread wide for a number of different fun and games. I like to use anal sex as part of the funishment. In the scene I like the Victorian young lady has been […]

Daddy and Babygirl Relationships by Paul Rulof (RuleOfThree) 9 comments

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While we have had several other Daddy/babygirl posts, the subject seems to be popular, and I have had a number of quality guest posts offered up by those who practice this lifestyle, therefore I feel it is important to post all of them. I hope this post will offer even more insight into this kind of relationship. The Daddy/Babygirl relationship style is becoming more popular, but is frequently misunderstood in the alternative sexuality community.  Just like any relationship, the specifics are often different between couples, but I’ll tell you a little bit about me and my relationships. Daddies I am a Daddy Dominant.  By being a Daddy, I take a protecting, nurturing, caring, guiding, and disciplining role in relationships.   This makes me feel satisfied and happy. The Dominant part means that I largely shape or guide the relationship, offer the options, and am in control.  One of the most important traits […]

RTK Dungeon Crawl ~ BDSM Toys and Uses 18 comments

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  Today’s Dungeon Crawl is brought to you by Romancing The Kink’s Trent Evan’s and Sheri Savill. Okay everyone, gather round. It’s time for show and tell. I don’t know a dominant who doesn’t love to show off their toys. When we went to an event across the country, I couldn’t wait to show off the unique stuff I’d found there. Vending is a big part of most big kink events, and I find way too many things I want and usually give in to the urge to buy them. Some people spend money on skis, hunting stuff, sports equipment, or other hobbies, I love to collect and use BDSM toys. I am a sadist. That means I get a rush or thrill from giving pain. That actually doesn’t make me a bad person because I only give pain to people wh0 like it. I am quite willing to temper my hand and […]

Being Sex Positive: Guest Post by The Kitty

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Are you sex positive or sex negative? Being Sex Positive: Guest Post by The Kitty Kitty is a person with an infectious personality. She is a very positive person who gives the vibe of let’s do what will be really great for everyone involved. She doesn’t shy away from things and is open to suggestions, and she truly cares about her play partners. She enjoys a number of different kinds of play that include but aren’t limited to strap-on play to blood play. This post talks more about the blood play than the strap-on, but it also talks about her forward thinking sex positive attitude. When discussing her kinks, Kitty talks about enjoying bloodplay, and while the focus is on her and her attitudes in general, it does include aspects of her kinks. That said, neither the writer of the post nor the hostess of the blog will be held liable […]

So You Think You Might Be Kinky? Now What?

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So You Think You Might Be Kinky? Now What? Think all this BDSM stuff looks wild, wicked, kind of scary, really sexy, and really interesting? Maybe you read that Shades book and it not only opened your eyes, but made you want to learn oh so much more about kinky relationships. Perhaps now you’re wondering just how to find factual information on kink, dominant and submissive relationships, fetishes, and how to turn curiosities into real life exploration. Taken in Hand could be the guide you are looking for. Want to learn about power exchange? Want to learn about domestic discipline? What to learn how to approach a Mistress? Want to learn how to be a dominant? Want to learn about munches and kink events? Want to learn about the interviews and checklists I give my new male submissives? What to learn about punishments and spankings? Want to get advice from someone who actually lives and practices BDSM […]

An Un-Collaring Ceremony

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This is written by Jennimal on Fetlife and re-posted with her permission. An Un-Collaring Ceremony  “I am safe,” I said, reaching back and unclasping my necklace. Sir and I had not an hour ago returned from a 4-day intensive M/s conference. We’d attended presentations and seminars by leaders in the leather community from all parts of the country. We’d listened and nodded along with their sage advice on topics ranging from establishing protocols to identifying the stages of an M/s relationship. We’d cried along with the heartfelt poignant anecdotes of the struggles some Masters and slaves had endured to get to the place they were. The very last presentation on spiritual M/s was the one that struck me to my core, and the one that impelled the confession I was now giving, kneeling at Sir’s feet. About a year ago, I was just getting out of a D/s poly triad that […]

Guest Post: Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play 14 comments

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TRUST and BDSM {Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play} This article is written by a good friend. I like to think that our minds are similarly twisted though I’m sure he is at least a little bit more devious than I am because he plays with the mind as much as the body. I asked him to write a guest post because I know that the of the type of play he does requires his partner to have absolute faith in him. He is going to speak on trust, consensual non-consent, fear play, and just why on earth his submissive would agree to give up so much of what most of us, even those into BDSM want to have a say in. What I’m talking about is the right to stop, whether by safeword or other words and actions, something that makes us feel like our self preservation is threatened. This article is being […]

Guest Post On Polyamory by rdhdbtrfly

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Guest Post On Polyamory by rdhdbtrfly This is the fourth in the series of guest posts that we will be doing on this blog. I have never been in a poly relationship. My friend rdhdbtrfly (that is her Fetlife name) has lived in various polyamory relationships and is currently in one now, so she is a good source of information on the topic. These relationships are hard to make work because you are dealing with not two, but three or more personalities. People have many ideas about what poly is and what it means. The following article is from her point of view. Your mileage may vary. I will add my own comments at the end. Comments are encouraged, discussion is fabulous, anything bordering on rude will be deleted. Please respect the dynamic she has chosen for herself. Have an open mind, learn something new, and help spread the word about the very positive relationships […]

I am a babygirl. I am a little girl. A daddy’s girl. 41 comments

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This is the third in the series of guest posts that we will be doing on this blog. Cinnamon and Sparkles aka Phoenixasubbie talks about her relationship in DD/lg dynamic. It goes along with Kayla and John’s post on their relationship last Thursday. Comments are encouraged, discussion is fabulous, anything bordering on rude will be deleted. Please respect the dynamic she has chosen for herself. Have an open mind, learn something new, and help spread the word about the very positive relationships and aspects of BDSM. I am a babygirl. I am a little girl. A daddy’s girl. This is NOT age play for me. This is not role play. This isn’t something I do because I think it’s sexy and fun. (Although it is) There are age players who practice DD/lg, but like any other dynamic, we all do it differently. For me, this is who I am. I don’t have Daddy issues. I […]