RTK Dungeon Crawl ~ BDSM Toys and Uses 18 comments


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Today’s Dungeon Crawl is brought to you by Romancing The Kink’s Trent Evan’s and Sheri Savill.

Okay everyone, gather round. It’s time for show and tell. I don’t know a dominant who doesn’t love to show off their toys. When we went to an event across the country, I couldn’t wait to show off the unique stuff I’d found there. Vending is a big part of most big kink events, and I find way too many things I want and usually give in to the urge to buy them. Some people spend money on skis, hunting stuff, sports equipment, or other hobbies, I love to collect and use BDSM toys.

I am a sadist. That means I get a rush or thrill from giving pain. That actually doesn’t make me a bad person because I only give pain to people wh0 like it. I am quite willing to temper my hand and have my touch and that of my toys be more of an impact of sensation to those who aren’t huge masochists. My wife is a good example of that. She is not a huge pain puppy and therefore I use a lighter touch that stimulates the body and senses. I do have a play partner who is a huge, I mean huge masochist. I even have special toys just for him. I get worn out before he has enough. The best approach with him is the toys that take a smaller amount of force to get a big impact.

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The Special Toys

No matter the play, I love variety. Sometimes I’ll do all canes. They don’t have to hurt. You can drum with them picking up the beat of the music and holding two at a time and drumming with a medium stroke that gives sensation but not much pain. I change up and go harder on the bottom and thighs and light on the back more like a massage. I usually cane with the person lying down on the massage table. Many of my canes have handles with little balls on them. These too can be used to tap and drum. With any cane I also can do a sort of sensations where I hold my hand about 4″ above the back and move the cane rapidly between the skin and my hand. Again, this doesn’t hurt. It does lull them, and the sensations along with the moving over the whole body, and changing up the canes can carry a bottom/play partner to sub space.

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The Kink Shop Canes by Master Mac

I also have two toys that are more like a birch bundle than a cane, but I put them in a category with my canes. One is made of about 15 very thin rattan pieces bundled at one end. Upon impact, the sticks fan out. Again, it doesn’t have to hurt badly or even at all. Depends on who I’m caning. I also have a toy that is twisted twine dipped in a substance that makes it pretty stiff but is still flexible. To put it simply, it hurts like a bitch with very little swing or even light impact. It is not a toy I use on anyone who doesn’t love pain.

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Slave Krystal’s custom floggers (left) bunny flogger, Rapture Leather (blank & white), The Kink Shop black rubber dragon tail – Chicago Toolworks (black) – Katana Works (middle) – Fetish Factory glass flogger (red – They don’t make those anymore.)

I have many floggers. If you go to a public dungeon you will see a few tops who can wield floggers with lightening speed in a beautiful series of movements, even double handed. I am short and one of my eyes is bad so my depth perception isn’t great. I have two sets of floggers and can do double handed but not really well. That said, I know what will sting, what feels more thuddy, where to flog for what kind of impact I want. It drives me nuts when I read stuff about how horribly painful a flogging was. Yes, it can hurt, but that’s if you use heavy force or have falls (the long strips) that are made of certain materials. It’s the rhythm that matters more and the build up. I go from soft, literally, using my bunny flogger which also adds sensation when it’s lightly run all over the body to a soft flogger, say deer skin, to heavier, like elk. I have flogging gloves that have square falls that give a different feel, and one that is rubber that leaves a trail of fire. Once in a great while I will use a flogger on someone bent over the spanking bench, but flogging is best done with a person on the St Andrews cross. You can’t flog someone over your lap. You need more room to swing. I need to be able to move in and out adjusting what hits whether just the tips or more of the fall, and move up and down the body. Do not flog or hit (cane or anything else) the kidney area. I will flog both the front and the back, breasts, and lady bits as well. A dragon tail is one piece of soft leather that is long and goes from narrow to wide 3″ maybe to narrow at the tip. I use it like someone would a rolled towel that is snapped on some one. Again, the sensations vary depending on my play partner. Floggers can be wicked. I’ve seen them made of plastic that will cut, thin strips of rubber, knots on the falls adds bite as does a strong arm.

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Roller with Tacks, Vampire Gloves, and Wartenburg Wheel (five wheels)

Sharp and pointies – Beauty loves sharp and pointies and I tend to love them when combines with the neon (yes neon not violet, the neon ones are a newer type) With my neon wand, I use what is called a body pad. It fits in the nose of the wand or electrical apparatus and then I tuck it in my waist band so it touches my skin. After I make myself electric, including my hands which I love!!! I can touch someone anywhere and gives them tingles to zaps with just my fingers. I feel it too when I use my hands and that’s okay. Electricity is the only thing I’ll bottom for. I can also pick up anything metal and use it to intensify the feeling because there is a zap or shock with the metal piece. The Wattenberg wheel is much more wicked, a butter knife can feel like a very sharp knife, and if blindfolded, my play partner may think I am cutting them. Not really, I would never do that kind of play without a HUGE amount of trust established, but what the body feels can mess with the senses and the mind. I also have a set of stainless steel claws that are great with or without electricity. Beauty loves them without. She cannot tolerate electricity. She has a weird charge going on inside her without it. I also have a set of vampire gloves, these have, I think 100 tiny little pointy bits coming through the fingers and palms. You can rub lightly, tap tap, tap, squeeze a well spanked bottom for an extra touch. You get the idea. Oh, and the neon wand is handy to run my electric fingers or a Mylar pom pom on canes or paddled skin. The wand has attachments the are like light bulbs and the wider the surface the more spread out the zap. DO NOT DO ELECTRIC PLAY WITHOUT LEARNING FIRST!!!  I love it, but I know how to be very safe.

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Kinklabs Neon Wand Kit with Body Pad – Custom Holster for Neon Wand and Hitachi (Lord Katana/ Katana Works)      

Paddles – Ah paddles. There are so many. Wooden, Lucite, rubber, leather. I even have one that has a foam king of like Styrofoam on one side and is wood on the other. I use the foam side on Beauty. It makes a huge booming sound that is a mind f**k with very little pain, and the wooden on other more masochistic partners. You can go light and build up, you can spread the spanking one the bottom and the thighs, you can measure the swing to match the partner, etc. I often will paddle and then switch to electricity, or something needing very little power to rest up in between when my arm gets tired. My Lucite paddle is only for my pain loving partner. When I paddle I have my partner on the spanking bench, my lap (Beauty only), or on the cross. The cross is handy so I can change up, but the bench allows the spanked one to be comfortable.

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Sir Wieland’s wood paddles at The Tool Shed Toys

I am not a huge bondage person. I like mental bondage, you stay because I said so, or I use carbineer clips to fasten to the play cuffs, and then to the piece of furniture. We have two hooks in the ceiling that are nice because you can clip someone with arms up, use a spreader bar on their ankles, and have fun circling around them with whatever implement. They are not meant to suspend anyone. We received a nice set of chains as a wedding gift that have clips on one end and loops on the other. They allow Beauty’s hands to be down and out when she is on the cross instead of up where she will have circulation problems.

Last but never ever least is a handy device called a spreader. It is a simple needlepoint plastic circle with 6 – 8 holes drilled in it. Each hole has a skinny piece of rope, one end had a plastic clip and one end after being threaded through a hole, has a knot. You put it on the lips of a woman’s lady bits. 3 – 4 on each side with the circle nestled between the thighs way up high. Once fastened, you pull the ropes slowly so they spread the woman’s vaginal lips wide open. There are little slip clasps like the kind on hood. String on each piece that then closes and hold the rope, and therefore the woman’s vagina is wide open. This should be done on a comfortable surface. The woman cannot move, or doesn’t dare is more like it. To move means pain. I use a glass dildo with lots of lube when I use the spreader. Cumming then becomes a mix of pain and pleasure in a very big way.

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In the picture along with the spreader is the juicer. I don’t use them together. The juicer can go in anally or vaginally with lots of lube. The end is shaped like the ridged part of an orange juicer then it has a bumpy shaft and finally a crank handle. You insert it and then turn the handle fast and slow, back and forth, it’s a great toy. The other insertables I have are my business.

 paddlesleatherSlappers – Farm N’ Fleet (left), Master Mac’s – The Kink Shop (second one), and Leather by DannyGrip Cuffs store (Slut Slapper & Split Thumper)

Okay, I think that about covers it aside from the disclaimer. I have learned how to safely do all of the stuff I have mentioned. Not learned by doing it on someone, but watching and being mentored. Can you paddle without having a class? Yes, but read up on safety issues. Can you do electricity without a class? NO!!! You must know the safety aspect for all play. Don’t be an idiot, or the asshole who learns by just trying it out. You aren’t the one on the receiving end. Bondage has safety issues, caning too, flogging, yep. Sharp and pointies, hell yes. Beauty loves knives, but I am not trained in knives yet. I’ve been to one class and I still don’t feel ready to put a razor sharp item to her body.

Know how to do aftercare. Know that circulation can be compromised, know that blood sugar can fall or spike, know where you’d better not hit, know where the first aid kit is. If you’re doing rope, have a pair of bondage or safety scissor for emergencies. Mine have a bright yellow day glow handle so I can find it fast in a dark dungeon. People react different. Negotiate people. Ask about possible trauma triggers. Ask about health issues, and ask if the person has ever had this done before. Get full consent and stick to negotiations. People will agree to things in subspace that they normally wouldn’t have. Don’t be the person who takes advantage of someone. Ask “Where CAN’T I touch you on your body?” It’s easier than asking where can I? Not all play is sexual, much of it isn’t. My play is only sexual with my wife. Don’t be the person who violates consent by going sexual when it hasn’t been agreed to, and RESPECT the persons safeword.

Be safe, be sane, be responsible.

*** Disclaimer*** The writer is not in any way suggesting readers go out and play in any of the ways mentioned. She takes no responsibility and will not be held liable for anything a reader does after reading this post. She strongly advocates learning how to do things safely before attempting anything mentioned in this post and will not be held liable for any injuries someone sustains as a result of reading this post and doing things they know nothing about. In other words. I am not liable for the actions of adults and minors have no business here, therefore I am not liable for them either because their parent should monitor their computer use.

{Side Note – We have loads more things that I took pictures of, but they will have to wait until another day. I will put up another page for Vendors with links on the blog and website. Giggle Switch also has made us and the friends toys, and she is working at getting her store up online. The picture with the Special Toys has the tire tread toy made by her. The Lucite paddle we got in Madison from a vendor, and the rug beater is from Denver’s Thunder in the Mountains. The birch bundle is also from Denver, and I don’t know from who off hand, but I have business cards flying around the house somewhere with the vendors names on them. Beauty}

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About JolynnRaymond

Writer of historical paranormal romance, kinky historical romance, and BDSM Mistress and Sex Blogger. I hold the position of being one of Kinkly's Top 100 Sex Bloggers. Two of my books, Taken in Hand A Guide to Domestic Discipline and His Lordship's Wayward Wife, have been nominated as best BDSM Non Fiction and Best BDSM Historical books of the year. The awards ceremony will take place at the BDSM Writers Con in New York City this August.


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