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A Commitment Not a Resolution 1 comment

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A Commitment Not a Resolution I stopped doing the whole resolution thing a long time ago. There are lots of things I could change to be more healthy, but I’d rather do things that make those people in my life happier than resolve not to eat that extra piece of chocolate cake. So here is something I need to remember to make my life and in turn the lives of those who matter to me, better. You can’t fix stupid. – I often feel the need to pull out my soapbox when I see things that make me annoyed or in general say ‘What the f**k”.  I don’t need to spend time and energy on those who choose to be stupid and ignorant. The people who put themselves out there and proclaim to the world that they are an idiot can be king of the sandbox. I’m going to grab my shovel and my […]

Why spanking is One of My Kinks 1 comment

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   Why Spanking is One of My Kinks There are a thousand and one different kinks out there. People enjoy a vast variety of things that are considered fetishes. Some include inflicting pain, some are more sensual, and some involve no contact at all. I’m a dominant and a sadist, so hands on play where I am in complete control is my preference. I enjoy flogging, caning, playing with sharp and pointies, electric play, and a few others to varying degrees of sensation on my partner, but even with that long list, spanking is one of my favorites. Why do I enjoy spanking so much? I love it because the one simple act can be many things. My favorite type of spanking is the intimate kind. Both my wife and I are comfortable when we do this kind of spanking. I sit propped up with pillows in the center of […]

Creating Balance and Love in Your Domestic Discipline Relationship 7 comments

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The people who are involved in domestic discipline and power exchange relationships will often tell those who question their lifestyle choice that the addition of structure and discipline has brought them much closer. While there will always be naysayers and those who remain skeptical, those of us who live in these types of relationships will undoubtedly insist that it’s true. The act of giving guidance, creating structure, holding someone accountable, seeing to their every need including the need for discipline, creates a special bond. There are no long periods of resentment, unresolved anger, or holding on to things that fester and gnaw at a relationship. Issues arise, they are handled in a way that both people find not only acceptable, but desirable, and the problem is laid to rest. Do DD couples argue? Actually no, my wife and I don’t. I give her a stern talking to in conjunction with any […]

Did Someone Say Anal? 4 comments

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Did Someone Say Anal? It seems that the demand for information about play that includes anything anal is quickly growing. Anal sex and all things related to anal play is the last frontier for some and the oh so naughty addition of something kind of kinky for others. Regardless of the why, the hunger for facts is out there and so I will discuss the types of anal play and toys. This article will be written from a woman’s point of view and feeling. I don’t know much about the whole stimulating the prostate. Other than that aspect, I would think the basics still apply. Safety first: Make sure whatever you are deciding to use to insert into the anus has a flanged end. If something slips all the way inside, it can be very hard to get it back out without the aide of medical help. I prefer a […]

The Ignorance of Gender Intolerance 3 comments

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  The Ignorance of Gender Intolerance The definition of tolerance in Webster’s Dictionary is: Willingness to accept feelings, habits, or beliefs that are different from your own. I think the idea of tolerance get a lot of lip service, especially in the kink community and in the twenty something crowd, but I’m not so sure this acceptance of feelings or habits different than yours has truly been embraced, even by those of us who consider themselves tolerant of others and their differences. My generation didn’t grow up truly being taught to be tolerant of people unlike ourselves. It was in my home, but that wasn’t the norm. My parents were front runners for their generation when it came to acceptance of those with a skin color that wasn’t white. We didn’t have African American kids bused to our school until I was in 3rd grade, and even then; they had a […]

A Submissive’s Point of View 3 comments

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I saw this picture and statement a few days ago, posted by Michael Makai, and immediately loved it. In fact, I changed my avatar on Fetlife to this picture. I’ve read it over a number of times and have identified with it very strongly, but there is always a moment of pause because the part about being so damn good at it is really quite presumptuous. This train of thought sent me on a search to find out just what submissives think makes a great dominant, not what we dominants think makes us good. I know I have preached to my readers about how it isn’t easy to be dominant. I’ve listed a code of ethics, I’ve talked about not being selfish or thinking it’s all about you, but all of that has come from my own point of view, not that of someone who wears the shoe on the […]

The Facts Regarding Domestic Discipline 7 comments

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There have been several stories as of late regarding men who have been charged with assault after disciplining their wives. These stories have suggested that Domestic Discipline or Christian Domestic Discipline has been involved. To this I cry foul. I am in no way supporting anyone who abuses their partner, nor am I condoning using discipline in a relationship where one party in the relationship hasn’t agreed to living a domestic discipline lifestyle. BOTH people must consent and the means of discipline must be discussed before discipline is used for the relationship to be called Domestic Discipline. I will not claim to know the intricacies of Christian Domestic Discipline because that is not the relationship I live. If a Christian man punishes his wife because when they married she vowed to obey him AND gave her consent for him to punish her if she failed in her duties, then I […]

I Need Help For a Reader 1 comment

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I Need Help For a Reader I received a message from a woman in the Middle East who is a closeted lesbian as well as a submissive. Her wish is to be able to find blogs or websites that are written/created by a woman who is in a female/female Domestic Discipline relationship. It is her desire to some day be in a DD relationship, but for now she must be content just reading about other female/female Domestic Discipline couples. The amount of information and websites are filtered where she lives, with much being banned and unable to be viewed, but blogs are more apt to get through the filter. My request to my readers, if you know a blog that features a lesbian couple in a Domestic Discipline relationship please put the link in the comment section under this post. Beauty and I are the only female/female couple we know […]

Saturday’s post from the Mailbag – I want my boyfriend to be dominant. 3 comments

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Saturday’s post from the Mailbag – I want my boyfriend to be dominant. Today’s post comes from my ‘Ask Jolynn’ page. My boyfriend is a dominant but he has not discovered himself yet, I can feel his energy when he looks at me and even when we are in bed. I want to help him discover his dominant side but rather than talking about it (which he may not believe) I want him to realize himself… what should i do? As some of you know, my first answer to most of the questions that come my way it to communicate. I realize the poster does not wish to talk to her boyfriend about what she wants, but I still say communication is vital. There are many people with a type A personality who aren’t dominant. One can be a take charge kind of person. The one who leads, the one […]