guide to DD

SRR – Differentiating Between Punishment and Discipline 19 comments

The following post is for the spanking round table discussion, and is written to help people differentiate between discipline and punishment in a power exchange relationship. Those who are new to BDSM or those who have engaged in kink but wish to move into a power exchange or domestic discipline relationship may often get hung up on when they are trying to figure out rules, routines, punishment, and fun BDSM play. I’m going to start with a basic definition for discipline, punishment and funishment. The three are different in many ways. but they are the same as well, because **All three things must be agreed on and must be based on consent by BOTH partners without coercion.** Discipline is the way in which my home is run and the structure that is at the base of my relationships within my BDSM kink family. The rules and routines vary quite a bit […]

G is for Domestic Discipline Guide #SpankA2Z 4 comments

G is for Domestic Discipline Guide #SpankA2Z Today the G for Guide is referring to my book Taken in Hand: A Guide to Domestic Discipline, Power Exchange, and Related BDSM Topics. It is a guide to help those seeking to establish a domestic discipline relationship that includes spanking and the various D/s relationships that are part of BDSM. Beginning a dominant and submissive or domestic discipline relationship that involves disciplining your partner and taking or giving up control to one person can be scary, and any relationship can have pitfalls. It’s easier when you know what to look for as well as knowing that others struggle too. The book covers creating  rules, routines, reasonable punishments and when to punish, as well as how this type of relationship can help create a powerful bond between two people. Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long […]

Getting Ready For The First Spanking #SatSpanks 10 comments

USA Memorial Day is on May 26 this year.  Here’s wishing you a safe and happy weekend! Welcome to the Saturday Spankings Blog hop!  If you’re a reader who likes stories with with a touch of corporal punishment, this is the hop for you.  We welcome readers comments, in fact we hunger for them, so don’t be stingy when you’re visiting.  Authors thrive on encouragement. This week’s snippet comes from my non-fiction book, Taken in Hand. It is a guide to creating and maintaining domestic discipline and power exchange relationships. The excerpt below is from the chapter on the inevitable first punishment which is something that can seem daunting to those who don’t practice BDSM as well as an element of discipline. There are 10 sentences, not eight. I apologize. I tried my best to whittle it down and was only semi successful. When speaking on a subject that can […]

My Books on Amazon Page Has Been Updated 2 comments

My Books on Amazon Page Has Been Updated I finally put all my books, blurbs, and links on my book page here. Now it easier for you to find all the books I have written and get a good description from the blurbs. My genres run the gambit from kinky historical romance, paranormal historical romance, collections of BDSM short stories, romantic paranormal thrillers, and a non fiction guide for creating and maintaining a domestic discipline or power exchange relationships. I write what I live when creating stories about kink and domestic discipline, and my love of history comes out in my historical novels. You’re sure to find something that will titillate, educate, entertain, make your heart pound, or take you on a wild ride. Peruse the title and captions below to find the book that’s right for you. Click here for the page or look on the main menu under My […]

Don’t Forget a Gift For Yourself

Now It’s Time For You Now that they’ve opened all their presents, it’s time for you to have one too. Give yourself a gift that will take you far away from all the stress and let you put those annoying relatives out of your mind. Find your escape with a novel by Jolynn Raymond All books available for instant download onto Kindle or PC and in paperback Kinky Historical Romance Lessons of Love Elizabeth’s Destiny Paranormal Historical Romance The Beneath the Shadows of Evil Trilogy Taken Torn Treasured Paranormal Romance Shattered Images A Past Undone Set of both Connely Witches books BDSM Short Story Collections Sweet Agony Dark Obsessions Kinky Novella Dining In Non Fiction BDSM DD and Relationship Book Taken In Hand

Heat Up Their Holiday

Nothing heats up a cold winter’s night like kinky historical novels and BDSM short stories by Jolynn Raymond All Books available in paperback and ebook All books are age 18 plus Kinky Historical Romance Lessons of Love Elizabeth’s Destiny BDSM Short Story Collections Sweet Agony Dark Obsessions Kinky Novella Dining In Non Fiction BDSM DD and Relationship Book Taken In Hand

Creating Balance and Love in Your Domestic Discipline Relationship 7 comments

The people who are involved in domestic discipline and power exchange relationships will often tell those who question their lifestyle choice that the addition of structure and discipline has brought them much closer. While there will always be naysayers and those who remain skeptical, those of us who live in these types of relationships will undoubtedly insist that it’s true. The act of giving guidance, creating structure, holding someone accountable, seeing to their every need including the need for discipline, creates a special bond. There are no long periods of resentment, unresolved anger, or holding on to things that fester and gnaw at a relationship. Issues arise, they are handled in a way that both people find not only acceptable, but desirable, and the problem is laid to rest. Do DD couples argue? Actually no, my wife and I don’t. I give her a stern talking to in conjunction with any […]

Everything You Wanted to Know About Domestic Discipline and D/s Relationships 1 comment

Taken in Hand is now live and ready for purchase.  Click Here to begin your journey into BDSM, power exchange relationships and Domestic Discipline I have combined many of my Ask Jolynn Posts and added information to help you begin a quality stable domestic discipline relationship or explore the world of BDSM with factual information that will keep you safe and explain some of the ins and outs of BDSM. Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long lasting domestic discipline marriage and her experience surrounding power exchange relationships. It explains why these unconventional relationships work so well for so many couples. The book is an in-depth tutorial that takes the relationship past the simple act of discipline, to building a rock solid foundation that will ultimately create a deep bond of trust and love between those involved. Taken In Hand will guide those […]

Happy Spanksgiving

Now that the relatives are gone and the household is sleeping off their turkey induced stupor, why not curl up with a steamy bit of erotica? Lessons of Love  spins the tale of a southern belle forced into marriage with a heartless, but ever so handsome rogue who believes in disciplining his new bride. While Elizabeth’s Destiny takes you on a wild and kinky adventure in the harem of a grand palace in India. Both will serve up food for your kinky mind and help alleviate the stress that holidays with family can bring. Go ahead, indulge yourself in a steamy read that’s guaranteed to knock your socks off and give you very sweet dreams. Or, if you are looking for something with even more kink, all of my books can be found here. Jolynn Raymond’s Amazon page.