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I Need Help For a Reader 1 comment

I Need Help For a Reader I received a message from a woman in the Middle East who is a closeted lesbian as well as a submissive. Her wish is to be able to find blogs or websites that are written/created by a woman who is in a female/female Domestic Discipline relationship. It is her desire to some day be in a DD relationship, but for now she must be content just reading about other female/female Domestic Discipline couples. The amount of information and websites are filtered where she lives, with much being banned and unable to be viewed, but blogs are more apt to get through the filter. My request to my readers, if you know a blog that features a lesbian couple in a Domestic Discipline relationship please put the link in the comment section under this post. Beauty and I are the only female/female couple we know […]


Saturday’s post from the Mailbag – I want my boyfriend to be dominant. 3 comments

Saturday’s post from the Mailbag – I want my boyfriend to be dominant. Today’s post comes from my ‘Ask Jolynn’ page. My boyfriend is a dominant but he has not discovered himself yet, I can feel his energy when he looks at me and even when we are in bed. I want to help him discover his dominant side but rather than talking about it (which he may not believe) I want him to realize himself… what should i do? As some of you know, my first answer to most of the questions that come my way it to communicate. I realize the poster does not wish to talk to her boyfriend about what she wants, but I still say communication is vital. There are many people with a type A personality who aren’t dominant. One can be a take charge kind of person. The one who leads, the one […]


Confused

This came from Sean in the mailbag. I’m quite perplexed about part of it, and shake my head about the other. The reason I posted it is not to ridicule, but to perhaps help others understand why this type of thing is impossible to answer. So, Sean writes, please give me a name for my female slave she is smooth Sean, I do not know your slave and have no idea what you mean by she is smooth. I am disturbed because if you are a person who is capable and responsible enough to own a slave, then you should be able to judge for yourself what her slave name should be. You are taking on or have taken on a huge undertaking, and your seeming lack of ability to even name her makes me wonder if you are ill prepared in other areas of slave ownership as well. She […]


So You Think You Want to Be a Dominant

  This post has been removed. It is now contained in the book you see above which will be available on Amazon December 2nd, 2013. I apologize for any inconvenience, but I have chosen to combine some of my posts into a book on Domestic discipline. Blurb from Taken in Hand Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long lasting domestic discipline marriage and her experience surrounding power exchange relationships. It explains why these unconventional relationships work so well for so many couples. The book is an in-depth tutorial that takes the relationship past the simple act of discipline, to building a rock solid foundation that will ultimately create a deep bond of trust and love between those involved. Taken In Hand will guide those interested in adding consensual domestic discipline, dominance and submission, and structure to their own relationship through the initial steps […]


A Question From Ask Jolynn 2 comments

This came from yesterday’s mailbag   So as apart of my punishment my Dom wants me to post and figure out what my punishment for breaking the rules should be so if you could help me fulfill this assignment it would be very helpful. I was granted permission to visit family on my own out of town and missed four check ins and mouthed off while I was there and was disrespectful to my Dom and when I got back I received my punishment but even then so I wasn’t thinking and took my collar off without asking first, and I was to turn in a assignment when I got back of all the things I had done while I was gone that I needed to be punished for and I didn’t so now my Dom wants me to decide my punishments and I am to ask for help on what it should be and I can’t […]


What Do You Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Share Your Kink? 11 comments

  What Do You Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Share Your Kink?   The big question that people with kinky desires often have is how to tell their partner that they want to try something out of the norm. What the hell do you do when you have all these fantasies that are considered kinky? Often when people finally embrace their kinky selves, it occupies their minds night and day to the point of distraction, and you find yourself obsessed with something that you want so badly but don’t know what your partner would think if they knew. Do you bring up the subject hoping your partner will respond in a positive way or keep things to yourself because you are afraid your partner will be freaked out by your desires? There are no easy answers to these questions, and for most of us who are older and actively kinky, […]


An Often Asked Question – How Would You Punish? 2 comments

This post has been removed. It is now contained in the book you see above which will be available on Amazon December 2nd, 2013. I apologize for any inconvenience, but I have chosen to combine some of my posts into a book on Domestic discipline. Blurb from Taken in Hand Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long lasting domestic discipline marriage and her experience surrounding power exchange relationships. It explains why these unconventional relationships work so well for so many couples. The book is an in-depth tutorial that takes the relationship past the simple act of discipline, to building a rock solid foundation that will ultimately create a deep bond of trust and love between those involved. Taken In Hand will guide those interested in adding consensual domestic discipline, dominance and submission, and structure to their own relationship through the initial steps of communication, […]


From The Mailbag 2 comments

From The Mailbag I received the following question from Chris, and thought it would make a good topic for my Saturday post. hi my name is chris, my gf likes pain and the whole bdsm concept, but im not sure on how to go about fulfilling that fantasy of hers. do u have any inexpensive (or slightly more expensive) tricks to spice things up in the bedroom? The first thing that is of importance is whether she finds the pain AND the power exchange appealing or if she just finds getting spanked delicious. Your approach to fulfilling her fantasy depends on what she finds fantasy worthy. As always, I advise that communicating is what should happen first. Find out if she likes the idea of you being the disciplinarian. The stern figure who will punish her because she really needs it and craves the control, or if she likes funishment spankings or […]


Why Dominant? 3 comments

Here is the post I promised those who have been following my informative yet kinky Saturday BDSM posts. I want to address the whys of dominance while at the same time hopefully answer some questions people who are just starting out might have. I’m also speaking about dominance because the poll showed that dominance and submission were the most wanted topics. As I’ve said before, when I first started to realize that the thoughts I was having about punishment and spanking were shared by others, I thought I was submissive. I think it had something to do with the fact that I wanted to be on the receiving end and therefore couldn’t be in the dominant role. The fact that I was always the person in control in my romantic relationships didn’t occur to me. My boyfriends weren’t meek or anything, they just wanted to please me, and I have […]