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Domestic Discipline & Power Exchange Relationship Workshop ~ BDSM Writers Con 2015 #NYC 2 comments

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Domestic Discipline and Power Exchange Relationship Workshop BDSM Writers Con NYC ~ August 21 – 23, 2015 Creating and Understanding Domestic Discipline and Power Exchange Relationships by Jolynn Raymond and Beauty’s Punishment This workshop will explore the ins and outs of my own personal, domestic discipline and power exchange relationships with my wife Beauty, my play partner, and my service submissives. I am the dominant and head of household in my marriage, as well as being the head of my kink family, and I will share exactly what that entails. I will emphasize on the dominant’s role and responsibilities in creating and maintaining either a DD or D/s relationship. Attendees will be walked through the topics of discussion that must be covered prior to any kink relationship, as well as how to set up the rules, routines, responsibilities, and punishments. All of these aspects take time to establish, and must suit each individual pair, […]

Elust #67 Is Here! #SexBloggers 170 comments

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Photo courtesy of Rebels Notes Welcome to Elust #67 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #68? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! For our UK readers, we would like to make a special request that you take a moment and fill out this petition to repeal the new censorship laws. ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Yes, Squirting is Real (And it’s not pee.) These men make me SO angry Still Kinky After All These Years   ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ When It Rains You want me to read what?   ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ *You […]

Top Ten Things To Know About Kink #BDSM 4 comments

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Top Ten Things to Know About Kink If you are of the type who doesn’t want to read up about being kinky, go to classes and events so you can learn hands on, or connect with other kinky people so you can learn kink etiquette, then I frown at you. Learning is VERY important, but I digress. If you take time for nothing else, remember my top ten things all people who are interested in kink and BDSM should know. Any kink or BDSM play is okay as long as everyone consents. You must have full consent by everyone involved. Consent cannot be given by children, animals, and random people in the community who happen upon your public scene. If it involves anyone in that last sentence then your kink is NOT okay. Hurting people who want to be hurt is okay. Tying people up who want to be tied […]

Adventures In Kink: Day One MTKF 2 comments

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I know I planned a ‘you are there’ kind of posting, but it simply didn’t pan out. There was just too much to do. I only finished half of my interview with Tamed on triggers because we talked too much about general things during the ride to Madison. Best laid plans and all that. She has the rest of the questions and is going to send them back. We just had to catch up, and once Madtown began, all of us were busy. The BDSM play ideas listed should be done in a safe, sane, and consensual way with the awareness of the risk involved. The author of this blog cannot be held responsible for any actions of the readers. I am simply reporting facts learned. Day One of the actual convention: We slept in, which was the plan, and were rested up for the classes when they began. The […]

Guest Post: Lord Katana Explains All About Floggers 1 comment

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Guest Post: Lord Katana Explains All About Floggers Today’s guest post is by Lord Katana. He is a good friend with a wonderful talent for making hand crafted floggers and other leather items. He made Beauty’s play cuffs, several of my favorite floggers, and my present last Christmas which was a belt/holster that has a holster for my neon wand and another holster for the Hitachi for hands free electric play and at ready fun during a play session. (Note, don’t grab the Hitachi before turning the wand off. Bad mix of electricity.) I asked him to share some of his expertise with my readers so they can learn to make informed decisions when buying toys, as well as learning how the different materials a flogger is made from can change the feel of play. Thank you for agreeing to share your expertise with us. Can you tell my readers […]

A Submissive’s Point of View 3 comments

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I saw this picture and statement a few days ago, posted by Michael Makai, and immediately loved it. In fact, I changed my avatar on Fetlife to this picture. I’ve read it over a number of times and have identified with it very strongly, but there is always a moment of pause because the part about being so damn good at it is really quite presumptuous. This train of thought sent me on a search to find out just what submissives think makes a great dominant, not what we dominants think makes us good. I know I have preached to my readers about how it isn’t easy to be dominant. I’ve listed a code of ethics, I’ve talked about not being selfish or thinking it’s all about you, but all of that has come from my own point of view, not that of someone who wears the shoe on the […]

Saturday’s post from the Mailbag – I want my boyfriend to be dominant. 3 comments

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Saturday’s post from the Mailbag – I want my boyfriend to be dominant. Today’s post comes from my ‘Ask Jolynn’ page. My boyfriend is a dominant but he has not discovered himself yet, I can feel his energy when he looks at me and even when we are in bed. I want to help him discover his dominant side but rather than talking about it (which he may not believe) I want him to realize himself… what should i do? As some of you know, my first answer to most of the questions that come my way it to communicate. I realize the poster does not wish to talk to her boyfriend about what she wants, but I still say communication is vital. There are many people with a type A personality who aren’t dominant. One can be a take charge kind of person. The one who leads, the one […]

A Standing Ovation 1 comment

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Once again I feel the need to stand up and cheer for my wonderful readers. Everyone who comes to read this blog and those who buy my books, are helping to make my dream of being a well read writer, a reality. Thank you for the support and enthusiasm you show me everyday. My book list now includes 6 titles and the Saturday kink topic is becoming a popular piece. My desire to educate and to entertain other with the power of my words is being fulfuilled, so Thank you!

Ask Jolynn…

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In the near future I will be starting up a sort of Dear Abbey/Miss Manners advice column for questions about BDSM kinks, play, and relationships. I don’t claim to know all by any means, but have been active in kink for over ten years and am involved in my local kink community. I am still learning, and I have good resources in the way of a network of people who know a lot about various different BDSM subjects. I’d like to open this up so people can reach out and ask things without fear of discovery or ridicule. It is possible that I will use the letters and questions in a non fiction BDSM book in the future. Of course I would seek permission from those who ask me and people will stay anonymous. So I’d love to hear from people. … When I get the Ask Jolynn part working […]