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Creating A BDSM Scene #Kinky 7 comments

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Creating a BDSM Scene The author of the post cannot be held liable for the actions of any readers. BDSM play can be dangerous if safety precautions are not adhered to and those participating have not learned how to use the items listed, or how to do the actions discussed before trying them. Proceed at your own risk. ALL PARTICIPANTS MUST GIVE FULL CONSENT WITHOUT COERCION! Both those who are new to kink and those who have been playing for some time may struggle with creativity at times. When you are a top or dominant in a BDSM play scene, you want what you do to run smoothly and to guide your bottom/submissive to that all wonderful and exalted place called subspace. No matter what you do, that might not happen, but if you orchestrate things in your mind first, and prepare things properly, there is a better chance of […]

My Love is Not About You #SameSexCouples 37 comments

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Beauty’s Picture To Me My Love is Not About You   Yesterday Joelle Casteel did a post that spoke about forcing our kink on others and people being accepting of what and who we are. I want to address the issue of public affection and how it’s okay for some people and very much not okay for others. Yes, that is my soapbox you hear being moved into position. So the thing that brought all this firestorm on the internet was the fact that a woman was walking her naked submissive on a leash in public. Folks chimed in from all sectors about the propriety of their actions. Some felt it was okay, but a large majority, myself included, felt that they had no business doing such a thing. The actions definitely fell under the umbrella of forcing their kink on others who did not give consent. Then the subject of […]

Embracing My Curves, Clothing Optional #Naked 10 comments

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Embracing My Curves, Clothing Optional   So the plan was to write about our experiences at Madtown a few weeks ago, but time and other things got in the way of that. I still plan to refer to our time spent in Madison, but wanted to write this post for today because we larger gals need to know that loving our curves is okay. The first class we went to on our second day at Madtown is what I’m going to tell you about. It was on rope suspension, and called Fat Bottom Girls: A Guide to Being a Queen Size Rope Slut. It addressed the fact that big girls and many rope tops, think heavy gals can’t fly (aka be suspended). The instructor, Lucy the Slut, proved that this isn’t true and talked about our size fears getting in the way of what we want to do. On Fetlife […]

Ass To Mouth? Just Say No! #AnalSex 6 comments

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Ass to Mouth? Just Say No!   Normally I am one who will say that even if something isn’t my kink, you have every right to indulge in it as long as it doesn’t hurt me and mine, and it’s safe, sane and consensual. Today I have to speak up, because the activity lacks the safe component. What am I talking about? What could make me say oh hell no don’t do that? Is it knives? Is it fire? Is it fisting /footing with Big Foot? Nope, it’s ass to mouth play. The act of taking one’s cock out of someone’s ass and then putting it in their mouth or another orifice before washing. I am certain there are those who will argue that the rectum has good bacteria in it. The rectum is really quite clean, especially after an enema. The rectum can be made clean enough so there […]

SRR – Differentiating Between Punishment and Discipline 19 comments

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The following post is for the spanking round table discussion, and is written to help people differentiate between discipline and punishment in a power exchange relationship. Those who are new to BDSM or those who have engaged in kink but wish to move into a power exchange or domestic discipline relationship may often get hung up on when they are trying to figure out rules, routines, punishment, and fun BDSM play. I’m going to start with a basic definition for discipline, punishment and funishment. The three are different in many ways. but they are the same as well, because **All three things must be agreed on and must be based on consent by BOTH partners without coercion.** Discipline is the way in which my home is run and the structure that is at the base of my relationships within my BDSM kink family. The rules and routines vary quite a bit […]

Can BDSM Play and Psychological Triggers Still Equal Safe, Sane, and Consensual? 13 comments

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Can BDSM Play and Psychological Triggers Still Equal Safe, Sane, and Consensual? @Jack_of_hearts7 Triggers during a BDSM scene are something we should be talking about, because when they happen, consent can become muddled and those involved on either side of the scene can feel helpless. The following interview was done with a friend who suffers from PTSD. It is one that everyone should read whether they play in their local kink dungeons or in the privacy of their own home. It is one that should be read if you are interested in BDSM and have psychological issues, have a partner who does, or could someday meet someone who deals with triggers on a day to day basis. So basically that means just about everyone, because no one knows what the future will bring. This article isn’t meant to scare anyone away, it is meant to educate so you are prepared, and […]

Kinky Convention Here We Come #BDSMConvention 1 comment

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The suitcase is packed, the toy bag has been checked and rechecked to make sure I have everything I need, our outfits for the nights in the dungeon are planned, and the schedule has been worked out more or less. What are you going to see in the upcoming days? Some of it will depend on our energy level because these events are fun but exhausting. That’s why we go a day early to settle in. Interviews I am planning on interviewing at least two people. Tamed will talk about triggers. Triggers are an unseen, often unexpected, and sometimes scary emotional reaction that can happen during a scene. If your play partner has triggers, you better know what they are. Secondly, Wanda will talk about CBT (cock and ball torture). I am also hoping to snag an interview on interrogation play. There is a big scene planned which will be […]

With Love to My Wife #BDSMrelationship 4 comments

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Three years ago today I married my beautiful wife and bound her to me forever with love, with a ring, and with a collar. Today I say my vows again so I will remember my promises and never forget the feeling of great joy that I had on the day I made Beauty mine. These words I pledge again today and forever, my Beauty, my love. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ *I pledge my life unto yours. When you need strength I will offer mine. When you need words of encouragement I will listen and provide support. When you need solace and comfort and the silent speech of love, I will understand. I will place you in my heart today, before all others, and I pledge to work from this hour forward to make our commitment everlasting. Beauty, you are assertive yet gentle. You are stubborn yet yielding: you bend your will to my […]

Step Into My World #BDSM

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  It’s Kink Convention Time! It’s kink convention time!!! And no, we aren’t going to Portland. I chose their brochure because it embodies the focus on kink that we will share next week. Beginning next Thursday you will be taken on a journey into the world of a large kink convention. These conventions take place quietly in cities all around the country, and attract large crowds of wonderful kinky, but really, oh so normal people to a convention center and hotel near you.  Some are held in a hotel where it is called a hotel take over, which means only the kinky convention people are in the hotel which is hosting the event, and others have all of the meeting and ballroom space the hotel has to offer but we are not the only guests at the hotel. Either way we strive to behave in a manner that does not […]