e[lust] #56 Is Here!

Photo courtesy of Understanding Flutterby Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #57? Start with the rules, come back April 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Trick of the Light What Does Porn Lead To The Posh Life of a Sex Toy Reviewer? ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Eleven Quarters Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Sadists ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ You really should consider adding your popular posts here too Its official: NatWest now censors academic work All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs […]

Hot Bottoms Can Melt Snow #SatSpanks

Today’s snippet comes from a short story I wrote a little while back for Winter Spanks. I’m planning on creating a book of short stories that are lighter on the kink and heavier on the domestic discipline in a F/f home like this one does. We find Lizzie and Jess standing in the snow near the car Jess has very recently driven off the road and down an embankment in a snowstorm. Jess had ventured out to get a special birthday present she’d ordered for Lizzie despite the fact that it was snowing like hell. She’d called Lizzie a little bit ago to come and get her after she’d plowed down the embankment and smashed the car, stopping just shy of the half frozen creek. To say Lizzie wasn’t pleased with the situation is putting it mildly. “Get out of the car Jess.” Knowing better than to defy her, Jess slid out from behind the wheel […]

So You Think You Might Be Kinky? Now What?

So You Think You Might Be Kinky? Now What? Think all this BDSM stuff looks wild, wicked, kind of scary, really sexy, and really interesting? Maybe you read that Shades book and it not only opened your eyes, but made you want to learn oh so much more about kinky relationships. Perhaps now you’re wondering just how to find factual information on kink, dominant and submissive relationships, fetishes, and how to turn curiosities into real life exploration. Taken in Hand could be the guide you are looking for. Want to learn about power exchange? Want to learn about domestic discipline? What to learn how to approach a Mistress? Want to learn how to be a dominant? Want to learn about munches and kink events? Want to learn about the interviews and checklists I give my new male submissives? What to learn about punishments and spankings? Want to get advice from someone who actually lives and practices BDSM […]

An Un-Collaring Ceremony

This is written by Jennimal on Fetlife and re-posted with her permission. An Un-Collaring Ceremony  “I am safe,” I said, reaching back and unclasping my necklace. Sir and I had not an hour ago returned from a 4-day intensive M/s conference. We’d attended presentations and seminars by leaders in the leather community from all parts of the country. We’d listened and nodded along with their sage advice on topics ranging from establishing protocols to identifying the stages of an M/s relationship. We’d cried along with the heartfelt poignant anecdotes of the struggles some Masters and slaves had endured to get to the place they were. The very last presentation on spiritual M/s was the one that struck me to my core, and the one that impelled the confession I was now giving, kneeling at Sir’s feet. About a year ago, I was just getting out of a D/s poly triad that […]

Cherry Stem Book Blitz & Giveaway

  Cherry Stem Book Blitz and Giveaway Blurb Turned at the cusp of a promising career in the adult movie industry, Cherry Stem has to rely on her mesmerizing vampire gaze for her meals and money. With the rent deadline approaching, settling for pocket change isn’t an option, so she reluctantly decides to let tall, dark, and handsome Detective Alex Marsden take her home for the night and fulfill her needs. Only she gets more than she bargained for. When Cherry meets Alex, she expects him to be nothing more than another “girl meets boy, girl feeds from boy, girl erases boy’s memories” hook-up. Once missing young women, the vampire council, and her irresistible ex are thrown into the mix though, she realizes nothing is as simple or random as she thought it was. And Alex is either the biggest gift or the biggest mistake of her un-life. Excerpt Hiding […]

Guest Post: Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play 14 comments

TRUST and BDSM {Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play} This article is written by a good friend. I like to think that our minds are similarly twisted though I’m sure he is at least a little bit more devious than I am because he plays with the mind as much as the body. I asked him to write a guest post because I know that the of the type of play he does requires his partner to have absolute faith in him. He is going to speak on trust, consensual non-consent, fear play, and just why on earth his submissive would agree to give up so much of what most of us, even those into BDSM want to have a say in. What I’m talking about is the right to stop, whether by safeword or other words and actions, something that makes us feel like our self preservation is threatened. This article is being […]

Hidden In Plain Sight #WickedWednesday

Hidden In Plain Sight #WickedWednesday   This is a picture of Jolynn and I from our wedding day. I would like to put up the real version someday, but that someday is not here yet. The prompt from Wicked Wednesday is hidden. We are hidden in plain sight as far as our relationship goes to some people. When I go to help Jolynn at work, I don’t wear my wedding ring as it matches hers. The people that she works with and works for might not all understand, and it also might put her job in jeopardy. You would think that people would be ok with same sex couples, especially F/f, since according to some friends, we are cute as kittens when we are together. I’m not going to go into why people should be accepting, since Jolynn has been doing that with her posts and the guest posts. So […]

Dungeon Crawl ~ Let’s Get Flogged #FirstFlogging

First Flogging Just a little teaser since you can see me, but not all of me. This is the first event I ever went to and it was at a public place. The person that took me was a fellow in the Madison community. I had met him online at Fetlife (over four years ago now) and we had messaged, talked on the phone, and went to meet at a public place first. This was over a course of time that I got to know him first before trotting off with him to event. Stranger danger people, come on. The event was called Therapy and it’s a bummer that they lost their space, so it is not active right now. I met quite a few folks from the Madison area that day, and also a couple that was in the Milwaukee area and would help me through being new in the community. I […]

Things I Need From You as My Submissive 17 comments

This is a wonderful post. It is reposted with permission by: Author: Dr Dexter — [email protected] Source: https://fetlife.com/users/237461/posts/1285187 Things I Need From you as My Submissive I need you to feel safe. I need you to let go of your wants and desires, and know that I will to do what is best for you, when you give up control. I need your trust. I don’t expect you to give it blindly – I expect to earn it. But without trust, you cannot surrender. Without surrender, you cannot grow. I need you to feel secure. I need you to know that I’m not going to break your self-image without making sure that I build it back up stronger than before. I need you to accept comfort. Sometimes you may crumble. I will be there to pick up the pieces, and to pet you as we continue on. I need you […]