It’s A Major Award! #GoldenFlogger 14 comments

 It’s A Major Award! The Golden Flogger Award I am excited and thrilled to announce that Taken in Hand; my nonfiction book on domestic discipline and power exchange relationships is nominated for best Non-Fiction BDSM book of the year for 2015. The nomination is for the Golden Flogger Award, which recognizes the best BDSM books in both fiction and nonfiction. The awards ceremony will take place in New York City during the BDSM Writers Convention in August. This nomination feels wonderful, because Taken in Hand, was written to help people navigate the turbulent waters of D/s and DD relationships. I know how much communication and work any power exchange relationship involves because my wife and I live it every day. By sharing how Beauty and I do things, it is my intent to help others develop the structure that is so critical when creating and sustaining a D/s or DD […]

My Christmas Wish for You 5 comments

My Christmas Wish for You Sitting in our special place on Christmas day with my lovely wife, far removed from the outside world, it’s so easy to be insulated from all the hate, bigotry, greed, and ignorance. The fireplace glows as we watch Christmas movies and cuddle together, sharing so much between us without words. How I wish I could wave a magic wand so the joy and contentment in my heart could scatter like the millions of stars and share the wondrous peace in my soul with the world. Alas I have no magic wand, no way to spread this gift Fate has given me, and so I will content myself with these simple wishes for me and mine, you and yours, and humanity near and far. These are the gifts I wish to bestow. For my wife, Beauty – I give you the gift of believing in yourself […]

Merry, as in Christmas #WickedWednesday 8 comments

Merry, as in Christmas Merry grumbled as she got out of the sleigh on the roof of yet another upscale condominium, tugged at the hem of her cherry red liquid latex dress, and walked to the chimney, resigned to the fact it was going to be a long night. She’d drawn the short straw at the family gathering this year and won the oh so joyous job of taking care of all the naughty adults on her great Grandfather Christmas’ list. While it was true she wasn’t one who hated to dole out discipline when it was needed, the whining many of the ill mannered, obnoxious, and wealthy grown ups who scored a spot upon it did, was truly annoying. Most deserved to be there in spades and yet had serious issues taking responsibility for their bad choices. Giving the very short and sexy dress one more tug, Merry did […]

Jack’s Guide to Doin’ the Sexorz Like A Boss #SexGuide

Jack’s Guide to Doin’ the Sexorz Like A Boss by Jack @Jack_of_hearts7 I see a lot of “guides” floating around the Fetsphere on how to improve one’s sexual technique. Generally these things focus on oral sex (either blow jobs or cunnilingus), and they’re typically, but not always, written by men. Some of them are helpful, and some of them are about as useful as tits on a bull. Generally though, they’re very heteronormative. These are just things I like to focus on as a queer person. Even if you’ve slept with a person with similar anatomy before, not everyone’s body works the same way, and not everyone likes the same sensation. This is SO important. I’ve seen other “guides” mention that not all women are the same. Kudos on that to the people who have written those, because it’s true. But NOBODY’S body works exactly the same way as another person’s. […]

Get Your Kink On For Christmas #Milwaukee

For the folks that live in Milwaukee and in the surrounding areas of Milwaukee, you can get your kink on for Christmas this Saturday, December 20th at the Milwaukee Munch. There will be a FREE raffle to win different prizes! One person will win a proof copy of His Lordship’s Wayward Wife that is fresh of the press. We have the only other copy right now, so it will be a special prize. There will two baskets like the one above to be won, and also some smaller fun gifts that I’m not telling what they are. I had some coal in my hand at one point when I was shopping today, so you never know. This is our gift to our local kink community since we love you guys.

The Kinky Christmas Blog Hop Dec. 18 – 22, 2014 25 comments

You Can Win a $75 Amazon Gift Card from We Love Kink Click The Link Below for Your Chance To Win a Rafflecopter giveaway A Special Christmas Gift From Us We will be giving one winner a $20 gift card from Amazon for just commenting on the post and leaving your email along with it. Gather round everyone.     I’ve a story to tell. There is to be no talking! Twas the Day Before Christmas By Jolynn Raymond (This is how the story really happened) Twas the day before Christmas And all through the room All the bad subs were getting spankings And it wasn’t even noon.  The paddles were hung  by the spanking bench with care,  and being put to good use  before Santa would be there. The naughties were bent over, their bottoms so red, while visions of making the good list danced in their heads. And me in […]

DJing at Kink Events by Spike72

DJing at Kink Events by Spike72 It’s no secret that I have been Djing and MCing at quite a few kinky events over the past few years: Madtown Kinkfest, Grind, the on-hiatus ForPlay, Kinky Kollege, and recently Sabbat de Sade. Hell, I even hosted “kinky karaoke” at Twisted Tryst once. DJing is my chosen profession now, and honestly, even with the slow growth my business has been having I have been pleasantly satisfied at the amount of exposure and gigs I’ve been getting. I think I’m ok at what I do; I still have some learning to do, but that means I can only go up from here. DJing at kink events is its own reward for the most part, because like other members of a kink-con staff I donate my time, equipment and talent. Just like any gig, I am aware that not everyone is going to appreciate the […]

Elust #65 Is Here! #SexBloggers

Photo courtesy of SassyCat Welcome to Elust #65 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #66? Start with the rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! For our UK readers, we would like to make a special request that you take a moment and fill out this petition to repeal the new censorship laws. ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ “Does this look sexual to you?” Submission Can Be Hard You can have a secret sex blog and be ethical   ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ On Writing and Self Doubt Online porn: the canary in the coalmine ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ […]

What Fifty Shades Doesn’t Tell You #Beyond50 52 comments

What Fifty Shades Doesn’t Tell You The Local Dungeon – If there is a local dungeon where you live, don’t expect to be invited there until people get to know you at a munch or class. For many of us our kink life is a huge secret, one that would cause havoc in our lives if exposed. Some places have a more public play space where you have to sign up to be a member, or an event where you just have to buy a ticket and register, but these aren’t an everyday thing nor are they located for the most part in smaller cities. If you want in to the private parties, go to munches and make friends so people grow to trust you. No one sets foot in my house until I feel they are safe. The D/s Factor – When you venture into the kink community whether […]