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Freedom To Be Rude? 7 comments

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Today is a day we are supposed to celebrate our freedoms we have here in America. People fought and died so that we could be a free country. The thing is I think half of them would roll over in their graves if they knew how we Americans have taken our basic rights of freedom and changed their meanings so they are not even recognizable. This post is about the freedom to do whatever the hell you want to do regardless of how it affects others, because whether we are talking about the precise expectations in the kink community for following manners about touching, approaching others, public dungeon play etc. or talking about basic everyday stuff in vanilla land, some people missed manners 101 while becoming adults. Now I am one who does not care what fork you use at the table or if you stick your pinkie out when […]

Y is for Yellow or Know Your Safety Words #SpankA2Z 4 comments

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Know Your Safewords Y is for yellow, and it also for one of the colors used almost globally during BDSM play. Yellow, though not often heard about or used in fiction BDSM books is important, and so is knowing how your partner feels when they answer “yellow” when asked what color they are feeling. There are many people who don’t feel a ‘true’ submissive or slave needs a safe word, many dominants who believe that having a safe word shows a lack of trust in their bottom. I’m not going to go into all of the reasons why I do believe in safe words, but I will say that I use the color code system EVERY TIME I play with a new partner. This is not because I don’t have faith in my ability to read someone. This is not because I want to be able to push my bottom […]

R is for Role – What is a Man’s Role at a CFNM? #SpankA2Z 39 comments

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R is for Role – What Is A Man’s Role at a CNFM Party? On occasion I still receive mail from a man who has stumbled across a post about CFNM (clothed female, nude male) I made on Fetlife some time ago. I am well aware that there are MANY men who fantasies about serving at a CFNM party, and that in those fantasies they are made to do all sorts of things that turn them on. It is their fantasy, and they are more than welcome to it. We each have images in our heads that touch the very core of our sexuality and turn up the thermostat inside. The problem that comes with our attempt to live out those fantasies is that the other people in them don’t necessarily act in the way we dreamed about. The post that I have copied and pasted here is really a […]

N is for Newbie #SpankA2Z 4 comments

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Being New In The BDSM Scene For this post I am going to include some helpful links for those new to the BDSM scene to help get you started, and on your way. The articles can also be for Kinksters wanting to get a refresher on BDSM etiquette. Jolynn has some handy tips that apply to everyone. Navigating The Waters of BDSM Is All BDSM Sexual A Beginners Toybag How To Negotiate A Scene Aftercare and BDSM Play If you want to read more, you can go to the BDSM and Domestic Discipline Archive. Hop on over to the rest of the Spankers to see what they are up to.

L is for Learning (or) Everything I Learned About The Kink Community, I Learned From My Loyal Lesbian #SpankA2Z 13 comments

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L is for Learning (or) Everything I learned about the Kink Community, I learned from my Loyal Lesbian.   Let me first request that no one gets their panties in a bundle over the term of endearment I use for the most beloved male member of our kink family. I am a lesbian, so please refrain from spouting off about how furious it makes you to have someone use the that term of sexuality for anyone who does not fit the mold that has been created by society. No offense is intended. This post is about love and loyalty, don’t twist it into something negative. For the first ten years of my life in BDSM, my relationships with girlfriends/submissives were done privately. What I mean by that is we were not involved in the kink community. I had several long term relationships with women without the benefit of being part […]

Are Your Expectations Realistic? #Mistress 2 comments

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Are Your Expectations Realistic? #Mistress   If all you expect when you go to a place to meet a potential person to date is sexy beautiful people, you’ll be disappointed. If all you expect is perfect weather when you go on vacation to the beach, you’ll be disappointed. If all you expect when you go to a chain restaurant is perfectly cooked gourmet food, you’ll be disappointed. If all you expect when you go to a BDSM munch is easy to lay submissive women, you’ll be disappointed. And if all you expect when seeking a dominant woman is the image above, you’ll be disappointed. The question and answer below is in response to an assignment I gave to one of the submissive men I am training. William is doing very well in my class on how to become a desirable submissive. The class is taught by my alter ego, Headmistress […]

Hop Against Homophobia ~ May 17th – May 24th #HAHAT 21 comments

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The Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia (HAHAT) was created to spread awareness of homophobia, biphobia and transphobia, and to stand together as a writer community against discrimination of our works. The hop is sponsored by http://hopagainsthomophobia.blogspot.com/. To read more about it and keep up to date go to: http://dayagainsthomophobia.org/ The hop begins on May 17th and runs through May 24th. It is to mark the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia.  ~~~~~~~~~~ We will be giving away a $10 Amazon gift card to one lucky person that comments on this post and leaves their email address. The winner will be notified by email a day or two after the hop ends. The gift card is redeemable by the email code. The Power of A Whisper When I first saw the notice about this hop, I immediately wished to be part of it. At that time I didn’t know exactly what would be required, […]

Navigating the Waters of BDSM 43 comments

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Navigating the Waters of BDSM While I cannot and will not call myself an expert at all things related to kink and BDSM, I’ve been around the block, I’ve seen things I wish I hadn’t, not taken a chance to do things I should have, and have come to understand that to have a really great kinky lifestyle you can’t be closed minded or opposed to listening and learning. I’ve experienced a wide range of fetishes, kinks, and people who take on the many faces under the cloak of BDSM. I’ve been involved in long term power exchange relationships, all of which had their share of great, good, and bad, and have a pretty good radar for sensing crap. That unfortunately doesn’t mean my exploration in BDSM or finding a partner with whom I could connect was ever easy. As a Mistress and sadist, I’ve had submissives both female and […]

Is All BDSM Sexual? #KinkySex 50 comments

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  When you search the internet for kink or BDSM, what you get are stories, video clips, and photos that scream sex, sex, sex! Those who are looking to read about kink by finding a good BDSM novel are looking for hot scenes of spanking, submission, female domination, a slave girl serving her master, or some other form of D/s or M/s relationship where the story has romance, BDSM encounters, and sex. I will admit that my own books, whether they are the historical romances or the collections of short BDSM stories include spanking, kinky play and, you guessed it. Sex! Sex sells, sex is stimulating to our base primal nature, sex arouses us and makes us feel alive, but despite all the in your face sex that comes with most anything commercial in the media that isn’t non-fiction, is all BDSM really sexual? When I first discovered kink I […]