An Often Asked Question – How Would You Punish? 2 comments


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This post has been removed. It is now contained in the book you see above which will be available on Amazon December 2nd, 2013. I apologize for any inconvenience, but I have chosen to combine some of my posts into a book on Domestic discipline.

Blurb from Taken in Hand

Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long lasting domestic discipline marriage and her experience surrounding power exchange relationships. It explains why these unconventional relationships work so well for so many couples. The book is an in-depth tutorial that takes the relationship past the simple act of discipline, to building a rock solid foundation that will ultimately create a deep bond of trust and love between those involved.

Taken In Hand will guide those interested in adding consensual domestic discipline, dominance and submission, and structure to their own relationship through the initial steps of communication, understanding and discovering both partner’s needs, creating mutual and realistic expectations, rules, and consequences, to the inevitable first spanking.

Taken In Hand will prove useful to those just starting out, as well as to those with some experience, as Ms. Raymond outlines the pitfalls, difficulties, and successes she has encountered in her own marriage. She also emphasizes the importance of consent, and pays special attention to the fine line between discipline and abuse.

The last part of the book examines the styles and types of spanking, gives an anal sex tutorial, talks about the responsibilities or being a dominant and gives tips for the submissive partner. Whether you need insight into BDSM as it relates to relationships or are trying to build a domestic discipline marriage from scratch, Taken In Hand will prove to be a comprehensive and practical guide.


About JolynnRaymond

Writer of historical paranormal romance, kinky historical romance, and BDSM Mistress and Sex Blogger. I hold the position of being one of Kinkly's Top 100 Sex Bloggers. Two of my books, Taken in Hand A Guide to Domestic Discipline and His Lordship's Wayward Wife, have been nominated as best BDSM Non Fiction and Best BDSM Historical books of the year. The awards ceremony will take place at the BDSM Writers Con in New York City this August.


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2 thoughts on “An Often Asked Question – How Would You Punish?

  • Jolynn Raymond

    Do you mean broken as in having to force you to submit or broken as in you have a lot of emotional issues that you need help to deal with and overcome?

    If it is the first, then that really depends on the dominant. Like in vanilla relationship, the hunt and taming can be exciting, but most dominants know if a submissive is serious or not. Beauty was bratty, but I knew she was very interested. I don’t do bratty. It just took a while to get her to understand that I wouldn’t offer up what she wanted unless she came to me ready and willing to submit.

    I think that even those who love the hunt and a challenge know enough about the prospective submissive/slave to know if the time invested in catching and training the person is going to be worth the physical, mental, and emotional effort. There are those that ‘break’ and force within hard limits, but they see potential in the person before breaking them.

    As to emotionally broken, everyone has issues. Three of my submissives have had issues ranging from bad self image/self worth, to alcoholism. I do not mind broken. People are people be they submissive, dominant, or vanilla. We all have a past. I enjoy helping a woman know her self worth. I have helped with phobias, depression, past abuse, lots of things where they needed help in overcoming internal fears and doubts. that is done through caring, commitment, behavior modification, communication and understanding. I don’t punish to get over broken. The only area where I learned that you can’t help broken is addiction. That has to come from within. You can try to motivate, you can give love and boundaries, but they have to want to be fixed.

    I hope that helps.