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About JolynnRaymond

Writer of historical paranormal romance, kinky historical romance, and BDSM Mistress and Sex Blogger. I hold the position of being one of Kinkly's Top 100 Sex Bloggers. Two of my books, Taken in Hand A Guide to Domestic Discipline and His Lordship's Wayward Wife, have been nominated as best BDSM Non Fiction and Best BDSM Historical books of the year. The awards ceremony will take place at the BDSM Writers Con in New York City this August.


24/7 vs. the Real World 7 comments

24/7 vs. the Real World   In this corner (pan to your right) we have the most magnificent leather clad Mistress, who can dominate her submissive with a single glance. And in this corner, (pan to your left) we have the somewhat harried looking, stressed out, and exhausted woman who just started a new job in the ‘real world’ and feels like she doesn’t have a dominant bone in her body, and doesn’t care to have one. Who will win this battle of strength/exhaustion, or will the two contenders find a way to merge their split personalities? Seriously, though, I feel like I’m torn in in half and must say goodbye to my dominant half because my new job has me crazy busy and completely exhausted 24/7 rather than being the dominant I want and need to be 24/7. Let me add a disclaimer that Beauty does not need to […]


Seriously? Kinky People Use Special Manners? 2 comments

Seriously? Kinky People Use Special Manners? by Jolynn Raymond Consider this a public service announcement on etiquette. I know I have written on the subject of what newbies into kink need to know, and I also know I’ve mentioned manners, but as new people arrive in my kink community every day, this needs to be addressed so those who are not in the know can be enlightened. If you’re poking around on Fetlife or Collarspace (<— Not a good place), you need manners even though those you meet on Collarspace may very well not be who they say. Collarspace is not a great go to place to meet real people into kink. Sorry, I could regress for hours on that evil. What I want you to know is: When approaching a woman on the internet be they a submissive or a dominant. DON’T hit on them with purely sexual emails, […]


Six Days and Counting #Wedding 16 comments

Six Days and Counting #Wedding   Our household is in a mad frenzy and it looks like a UPS truck exploded in our living room. The cats have never had so many boxes to play in. Why the crazy mess you ask? We are getting married in just six days! That’s it. In six days I will take Beauty to be my lawfully wedded wife. We were joined as Mistress and submissive in a beautiful ceremony that forever bound us in the eyes of the kink community, and we are legal domestic partners (Beauty hates that word!), but now we will be wife and wife, and no one can deny us the rights marriage brings. She will be mine to have and to hold, to honor and protect, to care for in sickness and in health, and to be by my side for two forevers, along with the health insurance […]


SCOTUS According to Jack 1 comment

SCOTUS According to Jack   So marriage equality is finally here, by order of the SCOTUS. I for one am extremely thrilled while still being mindful of the fact that there is still work to do in the various spheres of human rights. But it is a huge victory for US citizens that there is now formal acknowledgement and legitimacy of same sex marriage. The ruling does not particularly affect me on an individual level. I’m already married. Marriage Equality was recognized in my state last year and prior to the ruling, Marriage Equality existed in some form or another in 37 states prior to the ruling. It does affect many of my friends and loved ones, however, some of whom have been with their partners for decades, but have been unable to so much as visit them in the hospital when they are ill. I spend a lot of […]


Bullying Isn’t Just a Kid’s Sport 8 comments

Bullying Isn’t Just a Kid’s Sport Do you remember that kid when you were little, the one everyone avoided because if you caught his or her eye it meant impending doom? Maybe you were witness to or experienced first-hand the group of mean girls who thought they were better than everyone else was, and made life hell for the nerdy, shy people. What about the big kid who teases or beats up those weaker day after day, did you know him? Then there is the stereotypical group of jocks who stuff the loner or geek in his locker. I know, that particular act of bullying happens more often than not in the movies instead of real life, but it is an unfortunate reality that bullies exist, and there are a lot of people who can vouch for the cruelties of them. All of the above are profiles of bullies, but […]


Change Is A Four Letter Word 31 comments

Change Is A Four Letter Word {Written by Jolynn Raymond} Change is just a word, but it can mean many different things to people. Some of us hate it, and some embrace it. I am one of the haters. Change does more than annoy me, it gives me anxiety, makes my head spin with the uncertainty of it, and is just plain unwelcome in my life. Perhaps it’s the dominant in me who must always be in control speaking up, or the memories of bad changes in my past keeping me from wanting to move forward. Either way, telling me there must be big changes in my life is a sure way to receive a nasty glare. I am well aware that there have been and will be great changes that come along. Meeting my soon to be all the way wife, Beauty, snowballed into a wonderful and life altering […]


Our Wedding Rewind, or Jolynn and Beauty are Getting Married… Again. 3 comments

Our Wedding Rewind, or Jolynn and Beauty are Getting Married… Again.   Jolynn and Beauty are getting married you say? I thought they did that already. My lovely wife tells me that people are confused over our upcoming nuptials. Beauty has posted our ceremony, we have spoken of hunting for dresses, and we have pictures from a ceremony that took place back in 2011, so I completely understand the confusion. Let me sort things out for you. During the summer of 2011 Beauty and I had a ceremony which we referred to as a wedding and collaring ritual. It bound us together forever as Mistress and submissive, but the wedding side of it wasn’t legally binding in our state at the time because of this idiotic and narrow minded ban on same sex marriage. What we really had was only a Legal Domestic Partnership joining. The collaring was and is […]


A Beautiful Haven for Same Sex Weddings in Wisconsin 5 comments

A Beautiful Haven for Same Sex Weddings in Wisconsin My wife and I are getting married. I say wife because we held a ceremony 4 years ago which meant everything to us, but nothing to the state of Wisconsin. The tide has turned, and more and more states are recognizing same sex marriage for what it truly is: a legal joining of two people who are in love and wish to be together for the rest of their lives. The first ceremony took place at a rented vacation cabin so as to avoid any negativity that would spoil the day. This one will be held where the eyes of the world will see how very much in love we are. After hunting the different bed and breakfast locations in Wisconsin to find one that had a venue for weddings, we found the Lazy Cloud Bed and Breakfast in Lake Geneva. […]


The Fun, the Serious, and the In Between in BDSM 35 comments

The Fun, the Serious, and the In Between in BDSM Those who follow my posts on BDSM know that there are some things that make me very serious, in fact, the majority of my teachings contain little humor, but that isn’t true for everything. I love to laugh. Who doesn’t? They say laughter is good for any number things, and it can actually boost your metabolism. I guess if I want to lose my excessive curves I need to sit and laugh from morning until night. That would be such fun, but the day job won’t allow for it, but that doesn’t mean I can’t find humor in my kinky lifestyle. Even so, we are going to begin with the serious, and work our way to the fun so I can leave you smiling. The Serious – Ethics – Though I can be a happy caring sadist, I do my […]