Monthly Archives: March 2014

Guest Post: Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play 14 comments

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TRUST and BDSM {Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play} This article is written by a good friend. I like to think that our minds are similarly twisted though I’m sure he is at least a little bit more devious than I am because he plays with the mind as much as the body. I asked him to write a guest post because I know that the of the type of play he does requires his partner to have absolute faith in him. He is going to speak on trust, consensual non-consent, fear play, and just why on earth his submissive would agree to give up so much of what most of us, even those into BDSM want to have a say in. What I’m talking about is the right to stop, whether by safeword or other words and actions, something that makes us feel like our self preservation is threatened. This article is being […]

Hidden In Plain Sight #WickedWednesday

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Hidden In Plain Sight #WickedWednesday   This is a picture of Jolynn and I from our wedding day. I would like to put up the real version someday, but that someday is not here yet. The prompt from Wicked Wednesday is hidden. We are hidden in plain sight as far as our relationship goes to some people. When I go to help Jolynn at work, I don’t wear my wedding ring as it matches hers. The people that she works with and works for might not all understand, and it also might put her job in jeopardy. You would think that people would be ok with same sex couples, especially F/f, since according to some friends, we are cute as kittens when we are together. I’m not going to go into why people should be accepting, since Jolynn has been doing that with her posts and the guest posts. So […]

Dungeon Crawl ~ Let’s Get Flogged #FirstFlogging

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First Flogging Just a little teaser since you can see me, but not all of me. This is the first event I ever went to and it was at a public place. The person that took me was a fellow in the Madison community. I had met him online at Fetlife (over four years ago now) and we had messaged, talked on the phone, and went to meet at a public place first. This was over a course of time that I got to know him first before trotting off with him to event. Stranger danger people, come on. The event was called Therapy and it’s a bummer that they lost their space, so it is not active right now. I met quite a few folks from the Madison area that day, and also a couple that was in the Milwaukee area and would help me through being new in the community. I […]

Things I Need From You as My Submissive 17 comments

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This is a wonderful post. It is reposted with permission by: Author: Dr Dexter — [email protected] Source: https://fetlife.com/users/237461/posts/1285187 Things I Need From you as My Submissive I need you to feel safe. I need you to let go of your wants and desires, and know that I will to do what is best for you, when you give up control. I need your trust. I don’t expect you to give it blindly – I expect to earn it. But without trust, you cannot surrender. Without surrender, you cannot grow. I need you to feel secure. I need you to know that I’m not going to break your self-image without making sure that I build it back up stronger than before. I need you to accept comfort. Sometimes you may crumble. I will be there to pick up the pieces, and to pet you as we continue on. I need you […]

Jolie Hasn’t Learned Her Lesson Yet #SatSpanks

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Welcome to the Saturday Spankings Blog hop!  If you’re a reader who likes stories with a touch of corporal punishment, this is the hop for you.  We welcome readers comments, in fact we hunger for them, so don’t be stingy when you’re visiting.  Authors thrive on encouragement. ~~~~~~~~~~~ This week’s snippet comes from Lessons of Love once again. Cole is determined to tame his new bride, and this time he feels he’s succeeded, but only time will tell.       “I have been far too lenient. If I had punished you soundly last night this wouldn’t be necessary. You … are … to … remember … how … much … this … hurts … the … next … time … you … wish … to … be … disrespectful.” Each word was punctuated with a fall of his hand, and when he finally stopped, Jolie was sobbing and laying limp on his lap. He […]

New Guest Posts

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New Guest Posts I wanted to say thank you to rdhdbtrfly  and to all my guest posters so far. They have opened themselves up in order to share the dynamics of their relationships. The newest guest post on polyamory by rdhdbtrfly explores relationships that buck the norm and are unconventional because they involve more that two people. I also want to thank my readers for being open to learning about how others do things. Everyone has been great, even if they may not feel the relationships presented are right for them. The overwhelming positive comments have been wonderful. The purpose of the guest posts is to educate and to increase tolerance, and that is just what is happening. Both my guest posters and my readers are showing me that we can learn and therefore better understand things that are different. I have an exciting line up of posts over the next couple of months and look forward to reading […]

Guest Post On Polyamory by rdhdbtrfly

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Guest Post On Polyamory by rdhdbtrfly This is the fourth in the series of guest posts that we will be doing on this blog. I have never been in a poly relationship. My friend rdhdbtrfly (that is her Fetlife name) has lived in various polyamory relationships and is currently in one now, so she is a good source of information on the topic. These relationships are hard to make work because you are dealing with not two, but three or more personalities. People have many ideas about what poly is and what it means. The following article is from her point of view. Your mileage may vary. I will add my own comments at the end. Comments are encouraged, discussion is fabulous, anything bordering on rude will be deleted. Please respect the dynamic she has chosen for herself. Have an open mind, learn something new, and help spread the word about the very positive relationships […]

Elizabeth’s Destiny on Sale Wednesday at 8am PST

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Elizabeth’s Destiny goes on sale for the Kindle Countdown deal tomorrow at 8am PST for .99 cents. You can have Elizabeth all to yourself starting tomorrow. Thursday the price goes up to $1.99, Friday to $2.99, and on Saturday it will be the regular price of $3.99. Click here to have Elizabeth for you own. Packed off by her mother and the church elders because of her rebellious nature, lovely Elizabeth Thornton finds herself living in India. She has been sent there to be trained as a Zenana missionary, but fate has other things in mind. Maxwell Harrison is a rogue with few morals. His job is to capture and train beautiful women in the art of sadistic passion for his cruel employer’s harem. He sets his sights on Elizabeth the moment he sees her, knowing she will be a golden treasure among the other women, a unique toy in […]

Three Wishes #WickedWednesday

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Three Wishes Today’s three wishes come from Elizabeth Thornton, the heroine from Elizabeth’s Destiny. Elizabeth wishes her mother and the church elders hadn’t sent her to India. Elizabeth wishes she didn’t have to wear such smothering gowns in the horrid heat. Elizabeth wishes she wasn’t destined to live the dull life of a missionary. Sometime you get what you wish for… And sometimes you wish they had never came true. Maxwell has eyed the lovely Elizabeth in the market place and wants her. He has set his plan in motion to capture the lovely English girl.  “That one, the English woman. Steal the basket and knock her to the ground.”  “Yes Sir.” The boy beamed up at him and quickly put the coin in the pocket of his tattered pants. He hurried after Elizabeth, and waited until she was past the busiest of streets, then swooped in on her. He slammed […]