Jolynn Raymond

Getting Back To Business

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Let’s get back to the business of books and kinkiness. Be sure to check out Kitty’s post on being sex positive, and then find a steamy book to curl up with Want to learn about all things kink? We’ve got that in the BDSM Archives Want to read a kinky paranormal romance? We’ve got that. Want to read a historical paranormal romance? We’ve got that. Want a book that will tell you how to create a domestic discipline or power exchange relationship? We’ve go that too. What to read about real BDSM scenes in a collection of short stories? Sweet Agony Dark Obsessions F/f BDSM Short Stories Want to be titillated or educated about kink? Come and explore the world Jolynn Raymond’s Dark Obsessions Yes, kink is as wicked and wonderful as it looks!

Change = Hysteria

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I love my wife, and I love her passion for a great blog that can do amazing things and be so much more interactive than this one. That said, I can’t do it. I hate change. Yes, I’m one of those people. Perhaps it comes with my dominant personality and the fact that I have zero control over the crazy that is Google and how it relates to my blogging. Beauty has worked tirelessly. She’s stayed up nights, been on the phone with support, cracked this code and that, and played with widgets and hash tags, all of which I could never do. Her hard work is not being tossed aside, I am just using this blog for now until things can be ironed out. Thank you Beauty, I love you and your dedication.

Being Sex Positive: Guest Post by The Kitty

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Are you sex positive or sex negative? Being Sex Positive: Guest Post by The Kitty Kitty is a person with an infectious personality. She is a very positive person who gives the vibe of let’s do what will be really great for everyone involved. She doesn’t shy away from things and is open to suggestions, and she truly cares about her play partners. She enjoys a number of different kinds of play that include but aren’t limited to strap-on play to blood play. This post talks more about the blood play than the strap-on, but it also talks about her forward thinking sex positive attitude. When discussing her kinks, Kitty talks about enjoying bloodplay, and while the focus is on her and her attitudes in general, it does include aspects of her kinks. That said, neither the writer of the post nor the hostess of the blog will be held liable […]

So You Think You Might Be Kinky? Now What?

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So You Think You Might Be Kinky? Now What? Think all this BDSM stuff looks wild, wicked, kind of scary, really sexy, and really interesting? Maybe you read that Shades book and it not only opened your eyes, but made you want to learn oh so much more about kinky relationships. Perhaps now you’re wondering just how to find factual information on kink, dominant and submissive relationships, fetishes, and how to turn curiosities into real life exploration. Taken in Hand could be the guide you are looking for. Want to learn about power exchange? Want to learn about domestic discipline? What to learn how to approach a Mistress? Want to learn how to be a dominant? Want to learn about munches and kink events? Want to learn about the interviews and checklists I give my new male submissives? What to learn about punishments and spankings? Want to get advice from someone who actually lives and practices BDSM […]

An Un-Collaring Ceremony

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This is written by Jennimal on Fetlife and re-posted with her permission. An Un-Collaring Ceremony  “I am safe,” I said, reaching back and unclasping my necklace. Sir and I had not an hour ago returned from a 4-day intensive M/s conference. We’d attended presentations and seminars by leaders in the leather community from all parts of the country. We’d listened and nodded along with their sage advice on topics ranging from establishing protocols to identifying the stages of an M/s relationship. We’d cried along with the heartfelt poignant anecdotes of the struggles some Masters and slaves had endured to get to the place they were. The very last presentation on spiritual M/s was the one that struck me to my core, and the one that impelled the confession I was now giving, kneeling at Sir’s feet. About a year ago, I was just getting out of a D/s poly triad that […]

Guest Post: Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play 14 comments

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TRUST and BDSM {Trust, BDSM, and Fear Play} This article is written by a good friend. I like to think that our minds are similarly twisted though I’m sure he is at least a little bit more devious than I am because he plays with the mind as much as the body. I asked him to write a guest post because I know that the of the type of play he does requires his partner to have absolute faith in him. He is going to speak on trust, consensual non-consent, fear play, and just why on earth his submissive would agree to give up so much of what most of us, even those into BDSM want to have a say in. What I’m talking about is the right to stop, whether by safeword or other words and actions, something that makes us feel like our self preservation is threatened. This article is being […]

Hidden In Plain Sight #WickedWednesday

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Hidden In Plain Sight #WickedWednesday   This is a picture of Jolynn and I from our wedding day. I would like to put up the real version someday, but that someday is not here yet. The prompt from Wicked Wednesday is hidden. We are hidden in plain sight as far as our relationship goes to some people. When I go to help Jolynn at work, I don’t wear my wedding ring as it matches hers. The people that she works with and works for might not all understand, and it also might put her job in jeopardy. You would think that people would be ok with same sex couples, especially F/f, since according to some friends, we are cute as kittens when we are together. I’m not going to go into why people should be accepting, since Jolynn has been doing that with her posts and the guest posts. So […]

New Guest Posts

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New Guest Posts I wanted to say thank you to rdhdbtrfly  and to all my guest posters so far. They have opened themselves up in order to share the dynamics of their relationships. The newest guest post on polyamory by rdhdbtrfly explores relationships that buck the norm and are unconventional because they involve more that two people. I also want to thank my readers for being open to learning about how others do things. Everyone has been great, even if they may not feel the relationships presented are right for them. The overwhelming positive comments have been wonderful. The purpose of the guest posts is to educate and to increase tolerance, and that is just what is happening. Both my guest posters and my readers are showing me that we can learn and therefore better understand things that are different. I have an exciting line up of posts over the next couple of months and look forward to reading […]

Guest Post On Polyamory by rdhdbtrfly

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Guest Post On Polyamory by rdhdbtrfly This is the fourth in the series of guest posts that we will be doing on this blog. I have never been in a poly relationship. My friend rdhdbtrfly (that is her Fetlife name) has lived in various polyamory relationships and is currently in one now, so she is a good source of information on the topic. These relationships are hard to make work because you are dealing with not two, but three or more personalities. People have many ideas about what poly is and what it means. The following article is from her point of view. Your mileage may vary. I will add my own comments at the end. Comments are encouraged, discussion is fabulous, anything bordering on rude will be deleted. Please respect the dynamic she has chosen for herself. Have an open mind, learn something new, and help spread the word about the very positive relationships […]