Jolynn Raymond

Confused

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This came from Sean in the mailbag. I’m quite perplexed about part of it, and shake my head about the other. The reason I posted it is not to ridicule, but to perhaps help others understand why this type of thing is impossible to answer. So, Sean writes, please give me a name for my female slave she is smooth Sean, I do not know your slave and have no idea what you mean by she is smooth. I am disturbed because if you are a person who is capable and responsible enough to own a slave, then you should be able to judge for yourself what her slave name should be. You are taking on or have taken on a huge undertaking, and your seeming lack of ability to even name her makes me wonder if you are ill prepared in other areas of slave ownership as well. She […]

From the Mail Bag – Finding a Dominant 2 comments

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Dear Jolynn, BDSM was my first introduction to porn- I think I was 12 or 13 when I found a ‘dungeon’ website- for a while I think I thought all kinds of sex looked like that, and BDSM was pretty much what I envisioned as a norm. As time passed, I think I ‘conditioned’ myself to increasingly rougher porn- I’m 18 now and I literally cannot get myself off on anything other than very rough sex or bondage. I cannot envision myself in a relationship without BDSM (be it the TPE variety or in small doses) And it is this exact problem that has prevented me from getting into a long-term relationships. I know I’m only 18, and that I shouldn’t dismiss partners just because there’s a possibility they’re not into the stuff I’m into, but I don’t know how to tell if people are interested in BDSM, and I […]

Clit Punishment and Pleasure 5 comments

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I am sure this post will be a bit too far out there for some of you. I have chosen to speak about it because it keeps popping up in what people are searching for. As always, I want to educate. If you’re here for my books, please move on to another page. I am still dismayed by the number of people who are searching for forced anal rape or forced anal punishment, but I have said enough about it. Forced anal = rape, period. My only hope is that those who desire to know more read what I have written, and change their views. The subject of clit punishment comes up quite often as well. For the record, there are a million and one other ways to correct or discipline your domestic discipline wives, submissives or slaves. Intensive clit play can be made enjoyable so that through the pain their is intense pleasure, so much […]

How To Negotiate a Scene 3 comments

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How To Negotiate a Scene I am going to approach this from the standpoint that two people be they top/bottom, dominant/submissive, sadist/masochist, or whatever term you are comfortable and identify with have already gotten to know each other to some extent. I do not condone any type of play or power exchange between two people who have just met. So… you have been going to munches and have met someone of interest, you have had an online relationship for a few months and are ready to meet in person, or you have a desire to learn about or experience some type of play and have been introduced to someone in the community who is skilled and trusted. Now what? Questions asked by the top: Where can’t I touch you on your body? – This simple question will save both parties a hell of a lot of grief. Not where can I touch you, […]

A Question From the Mailbag on Enjoying Pain

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I received a question from the mailbag and it’s a good one. Those who are not kinky, find it difficult to understand those of us who are. My husband and l are in continues pain so how is getting pain from someone whipping and spanking you so exotic, or even sexual. I know what it feels like and it does not turn me on at all.              maryann There are people who are masochistic. That means they enjoy pain, but that doesn’t mean they enjoy all pain. During BDSM play, there are endorphins released in the brain in response to the sensation being felt. The brain is reacting to the painful stimulus, and releases this chemical that produces a floaty feeling or adrenaline and gives a rush. When engaged in play, the person who is on the receiving end often experiences something we refer to as subspace. This comes […]

Guest Posts

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In a couple of weeks I will be posting BDSM articles by guest bloggers. There are many aspects that I am unfamiliar with, but that in no way makes them something that shouldn’t be covered in a blog dedicated to providing factual information about BDSM and kink. The first two posts will be about Poly Relationship and what that really means, and CBT aka cock and ball torture. I feel quite unable to accurately inform my readers on these subjects.  There are other areas in which I am somewhat in the dark as well, such as latex, puppy/pony play, humiliation (consensual), and cross dressing to name a few. I welcome emails from readers who feel they could compose a factual post on these subjects as well.   I will also be resuming my regular posts. Life has just been crazy busy.

A Beginners Toy Bag 3 comments

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In the past I shared photos of our playroom/dungeon in our basement, but I want to address what a beginner would want to start with if they wanted to collect a few things to test out kinky play. You really do not have to spend tons of money to get a few items to start off with. Don’t go and spend a lot of money. I personally spend WAY too much money on toys when we go to the kink conventions but I have bee doing this for a long time and know quality when I see it. I am also looking for things that are unique, but you do not need to do this. I also don’t buy toys off the internet. I purchase them from local kink craftsmen and women who I know make top quality toys. Your basic internet kinky toy site make give you crappy things for a high price. The […]