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Confused

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This came from Sean in the mailbag. I’m quite perplexed about part of it, and shake my head about the other. The reason I posted it is not to ridicule, but to perhaps help others understand why this type of thing is impossible to answer. So, Sean writes, please give me a name for my female slave she is smooth Sean, I do not know your slave and have no idea what you mean by she is smooth. I am disturbed because if you are a person who is capable and responsible enough to own a slave, then you should be able to judge for yourself what her slave name should be. You are taking on or have taken on a huge undertaking, and your seeming lack of ability to even name her makes me wonder if you are ill prepared in other areas of slave ownership as well. She […]

From the Mail Bag – Finding a Dominant 2 comments

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Dear Jolynn, BDSM was my first introduction to porn- I think I was 12 or 13 when I found a ‘dungeon’ website- for a while I think I thought all kinds of sex looked like that, and BDSM was pretty much what I envisioned as a norm. As time passed, I think I ‘conditioned’ myself to increasingly rougher porn- I’m 18 now and I literally cannot get myself off on anything other than very rough sex or bondage. I cannot envision myself in a relationship without BDSM (be it the TPE variety or in small doses) And it is this exact problem that has prevented me from getting into a long-term relationships. I know I’m only 18, and that I shouldn’t dismiss partners just because there’s a possibility they’re not into the stuff I’m into, but I don’t know how to tell if people are interested in BDSM, and I […]

Clit Punishment and Pleasure 5 comments

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I am sure this post will be a bit too far out there for some of you. I have chosen to speak about it because it keeps popping up in what people are searching for. As always, I want to educate. If you’re here for my books, please move on to another page. I am still dismayed by the number of people who are searching for forced anal rape or forced anal punishment, but I have said enough about it. Forced anal = rape, period. My only hope is that those who desire to know more read what I have written, and change their views. The subject of clit punishment comes up quite often as well. For the record, there are a million and one other ways to correct or discipline your domestic discipline wives, submissives or slaves. Intensive clit play can be made enjoyable so that through the pain their is intense pleasure, so much […]

How To Negotiate a Scene 3 comments

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How To Negotiate a Scene I am going to approach this from the standpoint that two people be they top/bottom, dominant/submissive, sadist/masochist, or whatever term you are comfortable and identify with have already gotten to know each other to some extent. I do not condone any type of play or power exchange between two people who have just met. So… you have been going to munches and have met someone of interest, you have had an online relationship for a few months and are ready to meet in person, or you have a desire to learn about or experience some type of play and have been introduced to someone in the community who is skilled and trusted. Now what? Questions asked by the top: Where can’t I touch you on your body? – This simple question will save both parties a hell of a lot of grief. Not where can I touch you, […]

A Question From the Mailbag on Enjoying Pain

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I received a question from the mailbag and it’s a good one. Those who are not kinky, find it difficult to understand those of us who are. My husband and l are in continues pain so how is getting pain from someone whipping and spanking you so exotic, or even sexual. I know what it feels like and it does not turn me on at all.              maryann There are people who are masochistic. That means they enjoy pain, but that doesn’t mean they enjoy all pain. During BDSM play, there are endorphins released in the brain in response to the sensation being felt. The brain is reacting to the painful stimulus, and releases this chemical that produces a floaty feeling or adrenaline and gives a rush. When engaged in play, the person who is on the receiving end often experiences something we refer to as subspace. This comes […]

A Beginners Toy Bag 3 comments

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In the past I shared photos of our playroom/dungeon in our basement, but I want to address what a beginner would want to start with if they wanted to collect a few things to test out kinky play. You really do not have to spend tons of money to get a few items to start off with. Don’t go and spend a lot of money. I personally spend WAY too much money on toys when we go to the kink conventions but I have bee doing this for a long time and know quality when I see it. I am also looking for things that are unique, but you do not need to do this. I also don’t buy toys off the internet. I purchase them from local kink craftsmen and women who I know make top quality toys. Your basic internet kinky toy site make give you crappy things for a high price. The […]

Power Exchange Means Give and Take

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Power Exchange Means Give and Take This post has been removed. It is now contained in the book you see above which will be available on Amazon December 2nd, 2013. I apologize for any inconvenience, but I have chosen to combine some of my posts into a book on Domestic discipline. Blurb from Taken in Hand Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long lasting domestic discipline marriage and her experience surrounding power exchange relationships. It explains why these unconventional relationships work so well for so many couples. The book is an in-depth tutorial that takes the relationship past the simple act of discipline, to building a rock solid foundation that will ultimately create a deep bond of trust and love between those involved. Taken In Hand will guide those interested in adding consensual domestic discipline, dominance and submission, and structure to their own […]

So You Think You Want to Be a Dominant

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  This post has been removed. It is now contained in the book you see above which will be available on Amazon December 2nd, 2013. I apologize for any inconvenience, but I have chosen to combine some of my posts into a book on Domestic discipline. Blurb from Taken in Hand Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long lasting domestic discipline marriage and her experience surrounding power exchange relationships. It explains why these unconventional relationships work so well for so many couples. The book is an in-depth tutorial that takes the relationship past the simple act of discipline, to building a rock solid foundation that will ultimately create a deep bond of trust and love between those involved. Taken In Hand will guide those interested in adding consensual domestic discipline, dominance and submission, and structure to their own relationship through the initial steps […]

The Vows I Spoke When Collaring Beauty 3 comments

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I post these a day late because we are on vacation. This is what I said when I placed the collar around Beauty’s neck and took her as mine forever. I pledge my life unto yours. When you need strength I will offer mine. When you need words of encouragement I will listen and provide support. When you need solace and comfort and the silent speech of love, I will understand. I will place you in my heart today, before all others, and I pledge to work from this hour forward to make our commitment everlasting. Beauty, you are assertive yet gentle. You are stubborn yet yielding: you bend your will to my wishes like you never have for another. I admire your spirit, your honesty, your spontaneous silliness, and your quiet shyness that others never see. My aim is not to change you, but rather to grow with you […]