Jolynn Raymond

From The Mailbag 2 comments

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From The Mailbag I received the following question from Chris, and thought it would make a good topic for my Saturday post. hi my name is chris, my gf likes pain and the whole bdsm concept, but im not sure on how to go about fulfilling that fantasy of hers. do u have any inexpensive (or slightly more expensive) tricks to spice things up in the bedroom? The first thing that is of importance is whether she finds the pain AND the power exchange appealing or if she just finds getting spanked delicious. Your approach to fulfilling her fantasy depends on what she finds fantasy worthy. As always, I advise that communicating is what should happen first. Find out if she likes the idea of you being the disciplinarian. The stern figure who will punish her because she really needs it and craves the control, or if she likes funishment spankings or […]

What’s In My Dungeon?

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Today I am going to address what’s in our play space here at home. Many of the things are simply geared towards my needs as a dominant/top/sadist, some are must haves, and then I am going to add a wish list and a list of things other tops or bottoms might find indispensable. Furniture A St Andrew’s Cross. This is my favorite piece. Ours is secured to the ceiling and is set about a foot and a half from the wall instead of being up against it. This allows me to move in front of Beauty if she is facing the wall. I can check in on her, give her water from a bottle with a straw, as well as have frontal access to her clit. I normally start with her facing outward so I can flog and cane her breasts, and flog between her legs, then turn her so I have full access […]

Why Dominant? 3 comments

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Here is the post I promised those who have been following my informative yet kinky Saturday BDSM posts. I want to address the whys of dominance while at the same time hopefully answer some questions people who are just starting out might have. I’m also speaking about dominance because the poll showed that dominance and submission were the most wanted topics. As I’ve said before, when I first started to realize that the thoughts I was having about punishment and spanking were shared by others, I thought I was submissive. I think it had something to do with the fact that I wanted to be on the receiving end and therefore couldn’t be in the dominant role. The fact that I was always the person in control in my romantic relationships didn’t occur to me. My boyfriends weren’t meek or anything, they just wanted to please me, and I have […]

Equality Not Dominance

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I had planned on writing about dominance, it’s something that is a very part of me. It effect my relationships, it makes me feel settled, it’s both who and what I am. The thing is, even with all that, it pales in comparison with my desire to be equal. I make all the decisions in my home and in my marriage, yes I said marriage, but it’s that very thing that I cannot control and it hurts in a way I can’t really describe. I love my wife. I cherish her, promise to be faithful, promise to be by her side in good times and bad. We said the words in front of our friends, exchanged rings, did a sand ceremony, and then I also collared her. It was an incredible day and event that joined us forever, but our joining has a big hole. Now Beauty is my wife […]

A Change of Heart

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After much deliberation and a bit of a spat with my Muse, I have decided to change the title of book two in my Beneath the Shadows of Evil Series to Torn. I had named it Trapped, because really, Alliana is still there against her will, but the spark of love starts within these pages and so she is indeed torn. Does she dare to love the one who holds her captive? The answer to this and more will be revealed on May 1st.