Aftercare and BDSM Play

Don't forget the aftercare

I am a strong advocate of aftercare when engaging in BDSM play. What we do for recreation not only affects the body, but also affects the mind. Whether I play intimately with my wife, high impact with my play partner who is tough as nails, or am topping a friend who wishes to learn techniques or experience something new, I always provide aftercare. The only time I would not, would be if in the pre scene negotiations, and someone told me they wish to be left alone in their space. Even then, I wouldn’t feel it was just okay to put them out of my mind and I would make certain to learn what is their normal routine and usual activities after play. I will say right now that not every dominant or top believes in, or provides aftercare. Some feel, “Hey you, clean and put away the gear.” is the …

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Playing Doctor in the Supply Closet: Yes, Doctor by Darling Adams

Yes, Doctor by Darling Adams

 Yes, Doctor Blurb: When Dr. Darren Drake catches his Certified Nurse Assistant smoking behind the clinic and gushing on the phone about him, he decides she requires punishment: an embarrassing examination including anal play. Playing around with an employee opens him up for sexual harassment charges or getting kicked out of his practice, but when Chloe asks for more, he just can’t resist.  Despite working in an OB/Gyn clinic, Chloe hates doctors. Their know-it-all God-playing rubs her the wrong way—until the man she refers to as Dr. Dreamy shows her giving up control might fulfill fantasies of submission she never knew she had. He seems to enjoy torturing her in the most delicious ways, but he also reduces her to stammers and blushes, which makes it hard to get to know one another. Can he use his dominance to remove all semblance of control, leaving her with no option but …

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Disney quotes that probably shouldn’t turn me on…but do. #Erotic

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Photo credited to Timothy Wells Photography Disney quotes that probably shouldn’t turn me on…but do. Erotica by melbelle   “When Andy plays with you, it’s like, even though you’re not moving, you feel like you’re alive.” – Toy Story 2 “Everybody else be as gross as possible. Think dirty thoughts. We’re gonna make this tank so filthy…” – Finding Nemo “You can bet before were through, Mister, I’ll make a man out of you.” – Mulan “Oh, come, come, come, come now. You’re as wet as you can get!” – The Sword in the Stone “I’ll take you over, sideways and under on a magic carpet ride.” – Aladdin “I need somebody who can … Handle him as a man.” – Hercules “Slip into silent slumber. Sail on a silver mist. Slowly but surely, your senses will cease to resist. Trust in me. Just in me. Shut your eyes, and …

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Top Ten Things To Know About Kink #BDSM

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Top Ten Things to Know About Kink   If you are of the type who doesn’t want to read up about being kinky, go to classes and events so you can learn hands on, or connect with other kinky people so you can learn kink etiquette, then I frown at you. Learning is VERY important, but I digress. If you take time for nothing else, remember my top ten things all people who are interested in kink and BDSM should know. Any kink or BDSM play is okay as long as everyone consents. You must have full consent by everyone involved. Consent cannot be given by children, animals, and random people in the community who happen upon your public scene. If it involves anyone in that last sentence then your kink is NOT okay. Hurting people who want to be hurt is okay. Tying people up who want to be …

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Creating A BDSM Scene #Kinky

Creating a BDSM Scene   The author of the post cannot be held liable for the actions of any readers. BDSM play can be dangerous if safety precautions are not adhered to and those participating have not learned how to use the items listed, or how to do the actions discussed before trying them. Proceed at your own risk. ALL PARTICIPANTS MUST GIVE FULL CONSENT WITHOUT COERCION! Both those who are new to kink and those who have been playing for some time may struggle with creativity at times. When you are a top or dominant in a BDSM play scene, you want what you do to run smoothly and to guide your bottom/submissive to that all wonderful and exalted place called subspace. No matter what you do, that might not happen, but if you orchestrate things in your mind first, and prepare things properly, there is a better chance …

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Elust #61 is Here! #SexBloggers

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Photo Courtesy of Maria Opens Up Welcome to Elust #61 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #62? Start with the rules, come back September1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Bloggers, please I Touch Myself Stunt Porn / People Porn ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Is sex unsexy? A ‘His & Hers’ post Van Gogh, an erotic author and a selfie…   ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* His Desires All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. …

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Just Give Us Ten! #KindleUnlimited

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Kindle Unlimited If you are someone who sells their books, reads books, likes to buy online from Amazon, or pretty much makes it a habit of having some interaction with Amazon.com, then you are probably aware of their new marketing idea called Kindle Unlimited. In our home we have pretty much gotten on the Amazon Prime train. We buy online a lot, so get free shipping, watch movies and TV shows for free, and can borrow ebooks. I also sell all my books exclusively through their website. It has been a pretty good train ride. The train has both brought income into our home, and saved us money on things. Now the train has switched tracks and is hooking up with Kindle Unlimited, and I am not sure I like this train. There has been some bad press about Amazon and their squabbles with other publishers, and questions galore about …

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Tomatoes Gone Wild #Yum

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Every year since we’ve bought the house we’ve bought tomatoes at Steins and / or Loews. The very first year we used really good dirt mixed with Miracle Grow that came in a big bag. That’s the summer it was super hot and dry and we kept the sprinkler going all the time since the birds and wildlife needed a good drink. The tomatoes we had were the Sweet 100′s, which are the little red ones on the towel. Last year I couldn’t hardly find any and ended up with another kind that were called Early Girls. The Sweet 100′s have kept producing until November, and if we lived somewhere warmer, I’d think they’d keep on growing forever. It’s the cold and frost, and then they are done with. The yellow tomatoes ended up being some huge wild vines that we had to string up onto two trellis’ just to keep …

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Sexy Recipes for Sunday ~ Devil’s Food Cake with Hazelnut Crunch #Delicious

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Devil’s Food Cake with Hazelnut Crunch   INGREDIENTS Cake Nonstick vegetable oil spray 2 1/3 cups cake flour 1 cup natural unsweetened cocoa powder 1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda 1 teaspoon kosher salt 1/4 teaspoon baking powder 2 teaspoons instant espresso powder 1 cup hot coffee 1 cup buttermilk 2 1/2 cups sugar 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, room temperature 4 large eggs 1 large egg yolk 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract 4 ounces semisweet or bittersweet chocolate (do not exceed 70%), melted, cooled slightly HAZELNUT CRUNCH 1/4 cup hazelnuts 2 ounces semisweet or bittersweet chocolate (do not exceed 70%), chopped 2 tablespoons (1/4 stick) unsalted butter 1/2 cup Nutella 3 cups toasted rice cereal FROSTING AND ASSEMBLY 8 ounces high-quality milk chocolate (such as Lindt or Scharffen Berger), chopped 8 ounces semisweet or bittersweet chocolate (do not exceed 61%), chopped 1 1/2 tablespoons light corn syrup 1 1/2 cups heavy cream 1 cup (2 sticks) chilled unsalted butter, cut into 1/2-inch pieces     CAKE Preheat oven to 350°. Coat the bottom and sides of cake pans with nonstick spray. Line bottom of pans with parchment-paper rounds; spray paper. Sift cake flour, cocoa powder, …

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Foot Fetish Friday ~ My First Foot Fetishist Experience

My Old Heels

In the summer when was 18 or 19 years old, I met a fella who wanted to buy me a pair of high heels. I remember what he looked like, but sadly not his name. He was tall and good looking with a nice build. He also had dark brown wavy hair that wasn’t a short haircut, but a little longer. When he took me shopping he was nicely dressed in a dress shirt and slacks. Bakers Shoes was my favorite store for shoe shopping at Southridge Mall. I picked out a nice pair of black leather high heel shoes. I remember they were about $35 dollars and I kept the box for quite a while so they would stay nice. Before I can wear them out somewhere, the heels tips need to be replaced since they are worn down to the metal part inside the tips.  Every time I …

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My Love is Not About You #SameSexCouples

Getting On My Soapbox

Beauty’s Picture To Me My Love is Not About You   Yesterday Joelle Casteel did a post that spoke about forcing our kink on others and people being accepting of what and who we are. I want to address the issue of public affection and how it’s okay for some people and very much not okay for others. Yes, that is my soapbox you hear being moved into position. So the thing that brought all this firestorm on the internet was the fact that a woman was walking her naked submissive on a leash in public. Folks chimed in from all sectors about the propriety of their actions. Some felt it was okay, but a large majority, myself included, felt that they had no business doing such a thing. The actions definitely fell under the umbrella of forcing their kink on others who did not give consent. Then the subject of …

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