Aftercare and BDSM Play

Don't forget the aftercare

I am a strong advocate of aftercare when engaging in BDSM play. What we do for recreation not only affects the body, but also affects the mind. Whether I play intimately with my wife, high impact with my play partner who is tough as nails, or am topping a friend who wishes to learn techniques or experience something new, I always provide aftercare. The only time I would not, would be if in the pre scene negotiations, and someone told me they wish to be left alone in their space. Even then, I wouldn’t feel it was just okay to put them out of my mind and I would make certain to learn what is their normal routine and usual activities after play. I will say right now that not every dominant or top believes in, or provides aftercare. Some feel, “Hey you, clean and put away the gear.” is the …

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Elust #62 Is Here! #SexBloggers

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Photo Courtesy of Bawdy Bloke   Welcome to Elust #62 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #63? Start with the rules, come back October 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Sex Blogger Life: Real Talk Selfies, Shame and Safety ‘Dress me like a slut and punish my cock’ ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ I live in a sex-positive bubble. Wicked Wednesday: Silent Memories   ~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~ *You really should consider adding your popular posts here too* Are you guilty of slut-shaming sex doll lovers? All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this …

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Author Interview With Glenda Horsfall

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Author Interview with Glenda Horsfall Our fans love hearing about why and how exactly you got into writing your books. Accidental author? It was always your calling? When and why did you begin writing? I have written since my teens, but mainly for pleasure and myself. I have always loved to read and have dreamt of writing my own book for years. It was something I always envisaged getting around to when I retired, as I didn’t think I would ever have the time while working and bringing up a family. Last year my son was seriously ill and I found that I wasn’t sleeping too well. I was up in the middle of the night and at a loose end, and there’s only so much you can do without waking up the rest of the house, so I found myself playing on the computer.  I started to write as …

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Glenda Horsfall’s Playing For Keeps Blog Tour #Erotica

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  Matt is worried! Their relationship is in trouble. Cassie has been begging him to add role-play to their lovemaking, but the kind of role Cassie wants him to play leaves him cold. When he discovers her stash of erotic romance novels, he comes to suspect that what she really wants is dominance.   Matt takes Cassie away for the weekend to celebrate her birthday. She is disappointed that the ‘highlight’ of the weekend is to be a costume party. A costume party is not the kind of role-play she’s fantasized about. She is surprised when she realizes it will be a party for two and that Matt has actually taken her to a BDSM club. Cassie agrees to be his ‘love slave’ for the weekend and promises to obey all her ‘Master’s’ commands. Matt is surprised at her enthusiasm and is turned on by her ready acceptance of his …

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Sexy Recipes for Sunday – Aftercare Meatloaf

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Aftercare Meatloaf {This is my recipe that I adapted from a relative when I was in my twenties.} One day after Jolynn and our Loyal Lesbian were done playing, I served them my meatloaf. Jud was all wrapped up in my warm pink robe and had his legs and feet covered by a blanket. He was relaxing on our recliner in the living room eating his meatloaf with dove dark chocolates and milk. So after that we just called it my Aftercare Meatloaf, and he doesn’t pass up a chance to have a good dinner at our house.  Ingredients: Doubled recipe below, but you can always adjust it to the way you want it. 2 eggs 2 cups of catsup 2 cups of oatmeal – I use Quaker’s Instant Oatmeal and not the longer cooking kind. Otherwise, it doesn’t seem like it cooks the oatmeal enough to me. 1 packet …

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Summer Spanks Blog Hop Winners #Prizes

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Grand Prize Winners and Our Winner of Summer Spanks Blog Hop Kindle or Nook from Blushing Books – Kristin Brio! $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Stormy Night Publications – Megan Michaels!  $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Baronet Press – Sarah Young! One-month membership to Pandora Blake’s Dreams of Spanking – Adaline Raine! Handmade paddle from Blondie’s Place – Jule Kijek! $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Wizards in Publishing – Alice Gottschall! You can have it all package by Variant Books – Jolynn Raymond! Six-month membership to Discipline & Desire – Leigh Smith! $25 GC from Jolynn Raymond – Holla Dean! An eBook package from LearningDD – Cat Trouble! An eBook Cover Design & Matching Facebook Cover Picture from Kandes Pixels – Roz in His Hands! A big thanks to the Spanking Romance Reviews & Saturday Spankings for hosting the hop and giveaway!  Our Winner for the Hop Our big winner of Jolynn’s books, two signed paperbacks or ebooks of her choice, and the personalized signed Spanking Spoon is Kristin Elyon! Lucky girl. 

Sexy Recipes for Sunday – Delicious Banana Bread #Yum

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Delicious Banana Bread   Ingredients 1 cup granulated sugar 8 tablespoons (1 stick) unsalted butter, room temperature 2 large eggs 3 ripe bananas 1 tablespoon milk 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 2 cups all-purpose flour 1 teaspoon baking powder 1 teaspoon baking soda 1 teaspoon salt My recipe adjustments: I used four really ripe bananas, real butter that comes pre salted, just a pinch of salt, and added two teaspoons of vanilla. The more bananas you add, the sweeter it is. This recipe from the Food Network has 824 reviews, and everyone has their own suggestion on how to fix it, or occasionally they fussed that they didn’t like it. More for me then, they can eat something else.  Jolynn and my youngest loved this recipe and it was nearly gone the day I made it. There were two lone slices left from three people the next morning. I just put real …

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Summer Spanks: Last Flings/Lessons Learned Blog Hop – The Proper Incentive

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  And Welcome to Summer Spanks Last Flings /Lessons Learned Blog Hop! The hop is brought to you by Spanking Romance Reviews and Saturday Spankings Blog. We have some wonderful Grand Prizes & more rolling in every day! ●     Kindle or Nook (Blushing Books) ●     $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon (Stormy Night Publications) ●     $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon (Baronet Press) ●     One month membership to (Pandora Blake’s Dreams of Spanking) ●     Hand made paddle from (Blondie’s Place) ●     $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon (Wizards in Publishing) ●     You can have it all package by (Variant Books) ●     Six-month membership to (Discipline & Desire) ●     $25 GC from (Jolynn Raymond) ●     A prize from (LearningDD) ●     Ebook cover design and matching Facebook cover picture from (Kandes Pixels)  And Much, Much, More! Jolynn’s Prize Giveaway for Our Blog For our blog we are giving away a personally signed Spanking Spoon by Jolynn, and your choice of two books of Jolynn’s on Amazon to one lucky winner. The books can be signed and …

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Join Us For Summer Spanks – Sept. 5-7, 2014

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Summer Spanks Blog Hop: Last Flings or Lessons Learned September 5-7 2014 Brought to you by Spanking Romance Reviews & The Saturday Spankings Blog! Open to everyone in the spanking community! It’s the end of summer which means, either last chance for a summer fling, or back to school. Each participating blog will create a post based on the summer or back to school spanking theme. This can include a short story, poem, graphics/artwork, or any other creative avenue that you specialize in. Tell us a funny story, share an experience, it can be anything you dream of as long as it’s good clean spanking fun! No explicit nudity please. Bare bottoms are, of course, welcome! We have some wonderful Grand Prizes & more rolling in every day! Kindle or Nook from Blushing Books $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon from Stormy Night Publications $25 Gift Certificate to Amazon  from Baronet Press One month membership to Pandora …

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Donut Hole Breakfast Skewers #Yum

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                                 Donut Hole Breakfast Skewers {From ValSoCal}                     Donut holes ( I used entenmanns )                     strawberries                     blackberries                     skewers                     salted caramel sauce ( Trader Joes )                     chocolate sauce                     coconut Or if you want to get real fancy, you can make Nutella Donut Holes. Just replace the raspberry jam with Nutella. You can always cheat and get fresh donut holes from a bakery near you and just fill them …

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Playing Doctor in the Supply Closet: Yes, Doctor by Darling Adams

Yes, Doctor by Darling Adams

 Yes, Doctor Blurb: When Dr. Darren Drake catches his Certified Nurse Assistant smoking behind the clinic and gushing on the phone about him, he decides she requires punishment: an embarrassing examination including anal play. Playing around with an employee opens him up for sexual harassment charges or getting kicked out of his practice, but when Chloe asks for more, he just can’t resist.  Despite working in an OB/Gyn clinic, Chloe hates doctors. Their know-it-all God-playing rubs her the wrong way—until the man she refers to as Dr. Dreamy shows her giving up control might fulfill fantasies of submission she never knew she had. He seems to enjoy torturing her in the most delicious ways, but he also reduces her to stammers and blushes, which makes it hard to get to know one another. Can he use his dominance to remove all semblance of control, leaving her with no option but …

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