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Things I Need From You as My Submissive 17 comments

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This is a wonderful post. It is reposted with permission by: Author: Dr Dexter — [email protected] Source: https://fetlife.com/users/237461/posts/1285187 Things I Need From you as My Submissive I need you to feel safe. I need you to let go of your wants and desires, and know that I will to do what is best for you, when you give up control. I need your trust. I don’t expect you to give it blindly – I expect to earn it. But without trust, you cannot surrender. Without surrender, you cannot grow. I need you to feel secure. I need you to know that I’m not going to break your self-image without making sure that I build it back up stronger than before. I need you to accept comfort. Sometimes you may crumble. I will be there to pick up the pieces, and to pet you as we continue on. I need you […]

From The Mailbag 2 comments

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From The Mailbag I received the following question from Chris, and thought it would make a good topic for my Saturday post. hi my name is chris, my gf likes pain and the whole bdsm concept, but im not sure on how to go about fulfilling that fantasy of hers. do u have any inexpensive (or slightly more expensive) tricks to spice things up in the bedroom? The first thing that is of importance is whether she finds the pain AND the power exchange appealing or if she just finds getting spanked delicious. Your approach to fulfilling her fantasy depends on what she finds fantasy worthy. As always, I advise that communicating is what should happen first. Find out if she likes the idea of you being the disciplinarian. The stern figure who will punish her because she really needs it and craves the control, or if she likes funishment spankings or […]

Something from the Mailbag

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Something from the Mailbag I have a question from Jean about BDSM. I decided to post this here so more of you would see it. I also want to encourage others to go ahead and ask if you have something on your mind. Jean asks: My question is about my past few experiences with my husband involving bdsm. The first experience I pretty much did what he required of me. Without having done any real reading about it, it remained loving and disciplined. On to the next I experienced a very real desire to test him openly. Breaking rules, etc. It was very easy for me to realize that in my mind, it was a mind game. I felt I was getting what I wanted in the first place and that these rules were not sufficient. So, I egged him on. If a rule was made, it became my next […]

We Are Ethical 2 comments

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We Are Ethical If you came for the books and are disturbed by BDSM, by all means, skip this post! I thought a bit about this blog post before deciding to go ahead and do it. It’s not that I am ashamed in any way shape or form about my sexuality and kinky lifestyle, it’s because as a rule, I don’t think it’s okay to shove BDSM down the throat of those who would feel offended by it. That said, my involvement in BDSM isn’t exactly hidden on here, so I decided to choose the road that might lead to a better understanding of who we are. That popular book, you know the one, has a lot of misconceptions. For one, there isn’t a huge percentage of us who come from dark or abusive backgrounds or have hidden traumas, at least not more than the regular population. We aren’t immoral, […]