For this post I am going to include some helpful links for those new to the BDSM scene to help get you started, and on your way. The articles can also be for Kinksters wanting to get a refresher on BDSM etiquette. Jolynn has some handy tips that apply to everyone.
Truthfully, though, I won’t be negotiating a scene anytime soon. I have a life partner for that. Personally, BDSM and love are married in my mind. What other people do and how they express themselves, however, are of their own choosing and concern, with no opinion of mine ever needed, or desired.
I read with interest one resource: “Is All BDSM Sexual?”
In my opinion, it is if I’m allowed to draw a distinction between covert and overt sexuality.
Covertly, a scene my exclude all outward manifestations of sexuality, but that doesn’t necessarily make it devoid of all Eros. I believe our fetish is driven by an unconscious drive emanating from our libidinal urges, whether we are aware of it or act it out sexually. Our ego defense mechanisms, such as repression, denial, or rationalization, among others, may keep such carnal strivings from ever reaching awareness.
Overtly, some of us do incorporate sex into our scenes at one point or another. The BDSM literature is full of it, so there’s no need to discuss it further.
If time permitted, I assume a spirited discussion might ensue.
Well I hope you found them helpful and pleasurable all at the same time. If you haven’t yet, I wish you a fabulous time. Thanks for stopping by and for the comment as well.
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Ma’am,
Thank you for your resources.
Truthfully, though, I won’t be negotiating a scene anytime soon. I have a life partner for that. Personally, BDSM and love are married in my mind. What other people do and how they express themselves, however, are of their own choosing and concern, with no opinion of mine ever needed, or desired.
I read with interest one resource: “Is All BDSM Sexual?”
In my opinion, it is if I’m allowed to draw a distinction between covert and overt sexuality.
Covertly, a scene my exclude all outward manifestations of sexuality, but that doesn’t necessarily make it devoid of all Eros. I believe our fetish is driven by an unconscious drive emanating from our libidinal urges, whether we are aware of it or act it out sexually. Our ego defense mechanisms, such as repression, denial, or rationalization, among others, may keep such carnal strivings from ever reaching awareness.
Overtly, some of us do incorporate sex into our scenes at one point or another. The BDSM literature is full of it, so there’s no need to discuss it further.
If time permitted, I assume a spirited discussion might ensue.
ooh, I’m going to send hubby over to check out these links too!
🙂
Thanks!!
🙂
Well I hope you found them helpful and pleasurable all at the same time. If you haven’t yet, I wish you a fabulous time. Thanks for stopping by and for the comment as well.