Is for Zillion
If you hunt around the internet, go to munches, become part of discussion groups, or even attend big BDSM events where they have classes, you will see, hear, and learn about a zillion things having to do with kink. Information varies depending who is giving it because naturally, their viewpoints are slanted toward how the topic of conversation effects them.
Masters, tops, dominants, Lords, Mistresses, Queens, Ladies, Sirs, Daddy’s, and Ma’ams are all on the controlling side of the fence, slaves, submissives, babygirls, brats, bottoms, adult babies, and the like are on the side that wish to be controlled. Switches and kinksters are in the middle, and anyone can enjoy giving or receiving impact play, inflicting pain, giving sensations, or bondage.
All that is my attempt to lead up to what I feel are the vital things I have learned in my ten plus years of BDSM. There are a zillion things involving safety and interpersonal relationships that one must learn in order to function in the kink community, and maintain a healthy BDSM relationship. That said, there are only a few items that I feel are almost imperative to know if you decide to dangle your toes in the kinky waters. That is why Z is for Zillion. Out of everything I have learned about the zillion issues involving kink, out of all the information both good and bad swirling around, if I could only teach people a few things, this is what they would be.
- Treat people with respect. I do not care which role you choose, you deserve to respect until you prove otherwise.
- Kinky does not equal promiscuous, immoral, or hyper sexual.
- The best way to avoid violating someone during a scene is to ask him or her, “Where can’t I touch you?” Talk about what will happen and such is vital, but that one question makes body boundaries crystal clear.
So Z is for Zillion, but I’m glad I could narrow that number down to three. This A to Z challenge almost got the best of me at times, but I did it!
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