Why I Must Have Daily Lists and Rules #WickedWednesday
Every Saturday Marie Rebelle emails people that have signed up for email notifications, the prompt for the upcoming Wicked Wednesday post. The prompt this week is lists. Why must I have a daily, weekly, and monthly list? When my drug resistant depression is really bad I have problems remembering things I need to do. All I want to do is sleep and not be a person. Last July I had a med combo change to see if that would help any. It has, but I have problems the next day if I was up to all hours squirreling around on the internet. Other times I forget to do something because I went to do something else, and forgot what I was originally doing. My being in menopause does not help it either so, Jolynn keeps updated rules and she changes them as she needs to. The list gets printed off and then we have to go through them together, and she will ask if I have any questions and then we will talk about that. The list below is my actual current list of things to do, and she has tried nearly everything in the world to keep me on track. This might help other submissive that have my troubles or need to have detailed instructions to get through the day.
New expectations, Rules, Structure for Both of Us
I will hold up my end of our DD relationship by:
- Holding you to your schedule to give you structure.
- Giving good spankings whenever you need one to help with stress
- Spending quality weekend time and not all my time writing
- Be better at listening to you and your computer talk even if I don’t understand it.
- Give a weekly maintenance spanking every Saturday followed by cuddles.
- Be firm and swift in punishment for not following rules and tasks. If I am too tired then you will simply go in a corner, possibly with a new butt plug inserted!
- Always talking about punishments after and communicating about issues.
- Talking to you calmly. I will do my best here.
- Providing financially for our family
- Making decision that will help our family even if those decisions are hard.
- Support you emotionally
- Make you follow through on the things you start. You can make and do great things, you just need motivation.
You will hold up your end of our DD relationship by:
- Following the rules.
- Following your schedule
- Openly communicating issues
- Gently saying I am being verbally nasty
- Accepting consequences without making me feel like the bad guy
- Keeping our home uncluttered and inviting.
- Keeping track of advertising, the blog, promotions, and possible chances to do something with the books so I can make a decision about it ahead of time. You must have all the details so I am not writing something that is not what is expected. I may very well say I can’t do it but give me the option. Your time on the computer will be limited so you can’t squirrel out.
- Keep track of all food receipts and keep a running total for the month. This information must be readily available whenever I ask. You will know where the receipts are and you will know the total because you will have it added up within an hour of getting home from the store.
- Organize our needs and Dave’s needs with a mind on mileage on the car. Twice a month to Sams, twice a month to Target, twice a month to Walmart. Twice a month to Pick and Save. Any of Dave’s food shopping needs must be combined with ours for trips to Sams. He pays for ALL of his own stuff.
- We are going to make a list of foods you get at Sams, Target, etc. so you can plan your shopping. I have you down for 8 trips to the store per month. We need to know how long stuff tends to last.
Routines to bond:
- Saturday spankings – I will do my best with this. It is important.
- Foot rub when I get home (to an uncluttered house) I will spout off in the car and you can tell me about your day during the foot rub. The pets will live without our attention for 20 minutes.
- Pillow talk – A few times a week you will lay down with me for a little while when I go to bed and hold my hand or arm. It won’t be full on cuddle because of my mat and all that, but we can just touch.
- Listen to the voice recorder a few times to clarify what I want done. No more “I forgot”. I forget, you forget, the voice recorder doesn’t forget.
- Make any phone calls I ask you to make before you go back to bed. This means you will have the time between 7:00 am and 9:00 am to do a house chore. 9:00 am to 10:00 am is for making any calls, making oatmeal for the next day and cleaning up the pan, planning dinner and taking what you need out of freezer or whatever you need to do so dinner will be ready to make. You can go back to bed early if things are done all the way.
- Monday – Upstairs bathroom – toilet, mirror, cobwebs, tub including around overflow drain and polishing water spigot. Sleep from 9:00 am if chores are done, including plan for dinner and making oatmeal. Get up at 11:00 am then go to Dave’s at 12:00 pm.
- Tuesday – Change bed sheets, clean towels. Put in load of wash, Vacuum living room, our bedroom, hallways. The cat bedroom and around the living room cat box gets a fast vacuum Tuesday, Friday, Sunday. Put the vacuum away in either the office or the cat bedroom every day.
- Wednesday – Kitchen – mop floor. This should not be a huge chore because you are keeping up with the hair and crumbs and such with your daily sweeping. Wipe down counters, clean out refrigerator, clean microwave. Put in laundry or take laundry out of dryer.
- Thursday – Wipe down bathroom sink and top of toilet and behind seat where litter gathers, put in load of laundry. You can sleep from 8:00 am until 11:00 am and then go to Dave’s at noon.
- Friday – Food shopping. You can rearrange your schedule for what works best on shopping days but the 2:00 pm unclutter must happen. Make a list and organize yourself and your route.
- Every day at 10:00 am you can go back to bed. Get up at 12:30 pm. Work social media and book stuff from 12:30 pm until 2:00 pm. We will get a timer or alarm so you know when it’s 2:00 pm and you need to get to the decluttering before you pick me up.
- At 2:00 pm – 3:00 pm every day you will check each room for clutter and pick up for an hour before you come and get me.
- Coffee table has maximum of 3 catalogs or magazines at any given time. You have a magazine rack. Use it if you want to keep stuff. You should have an organizational place in your office for coupons and such. Mail that needs my attention is placed with one corner under the wooden box on coffee table. Don’t just plop stuff down, read the mail and discard or put coupons and ads in their place in your office. If you think I would like to look at a catalog then it may be placed next to, not over, the bills. Do this when mail comes, don’t wait.
- Other living room surfaces uncluttered. This means tops of bookcases by fire place and your end table. You have an office, use it.
- My small space in the office on dresser is clear and I am able to easily get to my hanging clothes.
- Kitchen is clean of clutter. No dishes soaking in the sink. No piles of napkins. No completely covered kitchen table. No piles of almost empty bread bags, no huge dust bunnies behind the door or in corners. I sweep the entire floor of my classroom in 5 minutes. A daily sweeping to collect pet hair can be fast. If you pick up each day it won’t get bad.
- Shine up sink in upstairs bathroom with a fast rubbing with bleach wipe.
- If you leave big messes and expect to be able to do it all after 2:00 pm you won’t get done and you will have consequences.
- Finish social media and screw around on the internet while I have a bath. I’d like to have dinner by 5:30 ish. If it’s left overs we can eat early. We can screw with the time of this some but I’d like to watch TV with you from like 6:30 pm on, 7:00 pm at the latest.
- 9:30 pm – 10:30 pm – No media. Some quiet activity. Take your sleeping pill at 9:30 pm. I want you in bed by 10:30 pm. Not starting to get pets ready at 10:30 pm. In bed all the way. This will be hard at first but you need to get a sleep routine going. If you start sleeping from 10:30 pm to 5:30 am it’s 7 hours of sleep.
Must Do’s to help your health and depression:
This stuff won’t matter and help you if you don’t commit to doing it. We are both fighting depression and exhaustion. All we can do is to work past it. The pills only help so much and proper rest will help as well as exercise and moving around by walking and chores. I know this will be hard.
- Therapy light – You will do this every morning when I get you up. I don’t care if you sit with your eyes closed. That light really helps.
- Walk the dog at least once a day.
- 20 minute meditation 3x per week.
- No lying
- Follow your schedule. If you don’t, you will be overwhelmed.
- Do your Must Dos
- Pill by 9:30 pm bed by 10:30 pm.
- No back talk. If you have something to say you tell me to please listen.
- Chores and extra jobs done. Period, no excuses aside from being sick. We have got to work with our depression and exhaustion. This is our life, this is how we are.
- Communicate your needs and emotions
- If you didn’t do something, tell me when you pick me up. Yes there will be a consequence but don’t just wait and have me see stuff the minute I walk in the door.
- No dirty pans in the sink.
- Do as you are told. – If you have an opinion, voice it, don’t just ignore what I tell you.
- No spending money or using the charge card without prior permission.
- Shower at least twice a week. You do not smell, but it will make you feel more awake and alive.
- Hairbrush spanking
- Stand in corner
- Small butt plug with spanking.
- No yelling.
- Follow through with bonding spankings and cuddling
- Follow through with punishment right away.
- Tell you of my plans if stuff is going to be different.
- Spend only 10:00 am to 3:00 pm writing on weekends
- Always use recorder for instructions
- Be clear on when you will get money each month for groceries.
- Clearly communicate my expectations
- Share my feelings
- Treat you kinder and praise you and thank you for all you do for our family.
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Wow, that’s quite a bit to function, and really addressed key details. Great list with the specifics, but I wonder how easy it is to get overwhelmed and just slack off (as it sounds like it is easily done).
Honestly, I used to have a cleaning list and I really need to go back to it. My house is a mess.
Hi, I guess it’s not overwhelming to me to have a list like that since I can just flip to what I need to be doing when. Jolynn has tried FlyLady and all that stuff. If I don’t have a list I start squirrelling around on the internets or doing the website and then the day is over. :/
What a structured lifestyle. Wow.
It’s to keep me out of trouble and then Jolynn doesn’t have to write me lists of stuff every day, since she’s done that plus this list.
Thanks for this private view into your lives, which might indeed help other couples out there. It’s very detailed and interesting.
Thanks a bunch Marie. I read posts on Facebook and Fet or people’s blogs that they have tried everything and they don’t know what to do with their sub. Jolynn is pretty good about pulling something out of her hat.