Taken in Hand: A Guide to Domestic Discipline,
Power Exchange Relationships, and
Related BDSM topics by Jolynn Raymond
Maybe you’ve been curious about domestic discipline. Maybe you’ve already tried to add it to your relationship but have struggled to make it work. Maybe you need help with rules, routines, or ways to discipline. Maybe you just want to understand what domestic discipline and power exchange relationships are and if they might be right for you. You’ve got questions, I’ve got answers. From the first conversation to the first punishment and how to sustain a long term loving relationship, Taken in Hand is a comprehensive guide that covers it all.
Jolynn Raymond has written a book that shares the details of her own long lasting domestic discipline marriage and her experience surrounding power exchange relationships. It explains why these unconventional relationships work so well for so many couples. The book is an in-depth tutorial that takes the relationship past the simple act of discipline, to building a rock solid foundation that will ultimately create a deep bond of trust and love between those involved.
Taken In Hand will guide those interested in adding consensual domestic discipline, dominance and submission, and structure to their own relationship through the initial steps of communication, understanding and discovering both partner’s needs, creating mutual and realistic expectations, rules, and consequences, to the inevitable first spanking.
Taken In Hand will prove useful to those just starting out, as well as to those with some experience, as Ms. Raymond outlines the pitfalls, difficulties, and successes she has encountered in her own marriage. She also emphasizes the importance of consent, and pays special attention to the fine line between discipline and abuse.
The last part of the book examines the styles and types of spanking, gives an anal sex tutorial, talks about the responsibilities or being a dominant and gives tips for the submissive partner. Whether you need insight into BDSM as it relates to relationships or are trying to build a domestic discipline marriage from scratch, Taken In Hand will prove to be a comprehensive and practical guide.
I highly recommend this book (ignore the misguided comment above). It’s great for both total beginners and more experienced players.
Thank you Trent. I appreciate your support and of course had to comment as well.
“Anal sex punishment” for beginners? Really?
Please be more informed before leaving bashing comments. The tag line says anal sex tutorial and the title includes other BDSM information. Never do I infer that anal sex should be used as punishment by anyone, experienced or not. I firmly say that anal sex should never be used as punishment. Anal sex that is not consensual, even as punishment is rape. The only way anal sex should ever enter the punishment realm is if BOTH parties agree that this is a consensual act for punishment. Not a coerced consensual act, but a truly consensual agreement made well before the punishment stage.
This book stresses over and over that domestic discipline and all power exchange relationships must be mutually wanted and must meet the needs of both parties. I am the first one to get on my soapbox when it comes to dominants who think it’s all about them.
Though I am a dominant, I am an advocate for submissives in all of my writings about power exchange relationships and always draw a clear line between abuse, punishment, and domination as well as making certain to point out that being a dominant is hard work because you are taking on the care and protection of another human being. Your comment is way out of line and is based on assumptions.