The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty by Joan Price
How to Maintain – or Regain – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life
I’d have to say that Joan’s book, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50 is just that. I read it in one sitting of four hours, and it has so much good information in it, whether you are 50 + or younger than that. Jolynn is 52 and I am 48, so the book is totally relatable. I’m keeping her book forever to refer to when I need to look up resources because it’s that good. Many thanks to all the people who helped contribute their articles and information to the book to make it what it is.
The good folks at Cleis Press gave me a paperback book to read at my request for the blog tour. My opinions are entirely my own, and I don’t usually go on about a book unless I really liked it.
Joan starts out her book posing questions to her readers to make you think about your sex life and sexuality. She talks about society’s myths about sex and aging, common misconceptions, and that all our sexual challenges have solutions. Joan goes into great detail about what happens to our bodies as we age, medical conditions and medications that could affect it, and these challenges are not cause for doom and gloom, and what you can do about it. There are multiple chapters on how to spice up your love life, what kind of things you can do, and expanding your horizons. Chapters that explain about dressing sexy and dressing up, role playing, nonmonogamy, swinging, kink, and lighter BDSM. Reading erotica, and porn could also be helpful ways to fantasize, get ideas, and possible role playing scenarios. I’m all for expanding sexual horizons and reading erotica!
Joan stresses that communication is very important with your partner, your doctor, and possibly a therapist depending on your situation. You have to be an advocate for yourself, and if that doctor can’t help you, have them refer you to someone that can. She tells about what to do if you need more stimulation, that lube is very important, and what kinds of lube to use for yourself and your toys. The need to buy quality toys, how to find them; such as going to a well lit, well stocked, woman owned store. Dont’ forget to read the reviews of sex toys by sex bloggers that can give you an unbiased opinion. How Kegel exercises for women and men lead to more enjoyable sex, and how to do them. And that regular exercise and eating well will help you in multiple ways.
I do wish that I had her book earlier in life before my first divorce so I could refer to what happens after. I met my first husband at 19, before the internets, and then having to leap into dating at 36 was hard. I can imagine what it would be like to be even older. :/
Since I’ve been premenopausal since the winter I turned 35, arthritis in my knees for the same amount of time, six screws in my back, along with two fused discs, I’m going to be looking up her suggestions on how not to hurt so much while being sexual with Jolynn.
Joan has articles from both ladies that run A Woman’s Touch in Madison in different chapters. That’s where I bought my first online quality sex toy. I’ve shopped online with them since the 90’s, and they are still helping people years later.
Author and speaker Joan Price is an advocate for ageless sexuality. An award-winning author, Joan is a leading senior sexpert and the voice behind the award-winning blog about sex and aging, Naked at Our Age. She lives in Sebastopol, CA.
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This would be very helpful book for a lot of people.
I’m sure. Everyone is aging, and some people don’t want to hear that.