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Top Ten Things To Know About Kink #BDSM 4 comments

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Top Ten Things to Know About Kink If you are of the type who doesn’t want to read up about being kinky, go to classes and events so you can learn hands on, or connect with other kinky people so you can learn kink etiquette, then I frown at you. Learning is VERY important, but I digress. If you take time for nothing else, remember my top ten things all people who are interested in kink and BDSM should know. Any kink or BDSM play is okay as long as everyone consents. You must have full consent by everyone involved. Consent cannot be given by children, animals, and random people in the community who happen upon your public scene. If it involves anyone in that last sentence then your kink is NOT okay. Hurting people who want to be hurt is okay. Tying people up who want to be tied […]

Four Long Years As A Fetlife Creep ~ One Man’s Journey 13 comments

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4 long years as a Fetlife creep 1590 days ago I got my first Fetlife message. It said “Thanks for joining FetLife :)”. 87 days ago I got my second message. Today I let Fetlife know that I am in a relationship with a very cute female submissive. The whole process was so completely counter-intuitive, it took me over four years to figure out. I wanted to tell this story because we seem to be struggling to integrate male dominant newcomers. They seem especially prone to acting like creepy arseholes. I spent 4 years one click away from being that Fetlife creep. This is my story. Four years and three months ago I joined Fetlife and started reading profiles. The first thing I noticed was that no one wanted to be my friend and they kinda would rather I didn’t get in touch and if I did get in touch […]

N is for Newbie #SpankA2Z 4 comments

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Being New In The BDSM Scene For this post I am going to include some helpful links for those new to the BDSM scene to help get you started, and on your way. The articles can also be for Kinksters wanting to get a refresher on BDSM etiquette. Jolynn has some handy tips that apply to everyone. Navigating The Waters of BDSM Is All BDSM Sexual A Beginners Toybag How To Negotiate A Scene Aftercare and BDSM Play If you want to read more, you can go to the BDSM and Domestic Discipline Archive. Hop on over to the rest of the Spankers to see what they are up to.

L is for Learning (or) Everything I Learned About The Kink Community, I Learned From My Loyal Lesbian #SpankA2Z 13 comments

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L is for Learning (or) Everything I learned about the Kink Community, I learned from my Loyal Lesbian.   Let me first request that no one gets their panties in a bundle over the term of endearment I use for the most beloved male member of our kink family. I am a lesbian, so please refrain from spouting off about how furious it makes you to have someone use the that term of sexuality for anyone who does not fit the mold that has been created by society. No offense is intended. This post is about love and loyalty, don’t twist it into something negative. For the first ten years of my life in BDSM, my relationships with girlfriends/submissives were done privately. What I mean by that is we were not involved in the kink community. I had several long term relationships with women without the benefit of being part […]