aftercare


N is for Newbie #SpankA2Z 4 comments

Being New In The BDSM Scene For this post I am going to include some helpful links for those new to the BDSM scene to help get you started, and on your way. The articles can also be for Kinksters wanting to get a refresher on BDSM etiquette. Jolynn has some handy tips that apply to everyone. Navigating The Waters of BDSM Is All BDSM Sexual A Beginners Toybag How To Negotiate A Scene Aftercare and BDSM Play If you want to read more, you can go to the BDSM and Domestic Discipline Archive. Hop on over to the rest of the Spankers to see what they are up to.


Aftercare and BDSM Play 94 comments

Aftercare and BDSM Play I am a strong advocate of aftercare when engaging in BDSM play. What we do for recreation not only affects the body, but also affects the mind. Whether I play intimately with my wife, high impact with my play partner who is tough as nails, or am topping a friend who wishes to learn techniques or experience something new, I always provide aftercare. The only time I would not, would be if in the pre scene negotiations, and someone told me they wish to be left alone in their space. Even then, I wouldn’t feel it was just okay to put them out of my mind and I would make certain to learn what is their normal routine and usual activities after play. I will say right now that not every dominant or top believes in, or provides aftercare. Some feel, “Hey you, clean and put away […]


Saturdays Have Just Become Better!

In an effort to continue providing knowledgable information to those who are interested in BDSM or just a bit of kinky sex, I will be starting to have a topic of the week post on Saturdays. I hope to generate some discussion, but my main goal will be to educate. There is so much misinformation in porn, on so called BDSM websites, and in some of the popular books out there now days and it really bothers me that most never touch on safety, communication, learning, aftercare, and much of the other stuff you need to know if you are curious or just starting out. Hell, I’m still learning techniques after 10+ years. I will post on topics such as: Power Exchange Relationships, the different kinds of submission, submissive vs slave, Master, Mistress, Daddy, Dom, Domme, who the heck is who and what do they mean?, safety and a properly stocked first aid kit, aftercare, red flags, […]