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Why spanking is One of My Kinks 1 comment

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   Why Spanking is One of My Kinks There are a thousand and one different kinks out there. People enjoy a vast variety of things that are considered fetishes. Some include inflicting pain, some are more sensual, and some involve no contact at all. I’m a dominant and a sadist, so hands on play where I am in complete control is my preference. I enjoy flogging, caning, playing with sharp and pointies, electric play, and a few others to varying degrees of sensation on my partner, but even with that long list, spanking is one of my favorites. Why do I enjoy spanking so much? I love it because the one simple act can be many things. My favorite type of spanking is the intimate kind. Both my wife and I are comfortable when we do this kind of spanking. I sit propped up with pillows in the center of […]

A Submissive’s Point of View 3 comments

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I saw this picture and statement a few days ago, posted by Michael Makai, and immediately loved it. In fact, I changed my avatar on Fetlife to this picture. I’ve read it over a number of times and have identified with it very strongly, but there is always a moment of pause because the part about being so damn good at it is really quite presumptuous. This train of thought sent me on a search to find out just what submissives think makes a great dominant, not what we dominants think makes us good. I know I have preached to my readers about how it isn’t easy to be dominant. I’ve listed a code of ethics, I’ve talked about not being selfish or thinking it’s all about you, but all of that has come from my own point of view, not that of someone who wears the shoe on the […]

Why Dominant? 3 comments

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Here is the post I promised those who have been following my informative yet kinky Saturday BDSM posts. I want to address the whys of dominance while at the same time hopefully answer some questions people who are just starting out might have. I’m also speaking about dominance because the poll showed that dominance and submission were the most wanted topics. As I’ve said before, when I first started to realize that the thoughts I was having about punishment and spanking were shared by others, I thought I was submissive. I think it had something to do with the fact that I wanted to be on the receiving end and therefore couldn’t be in the dominant role. The fact that I was always the person in control in my romantic relationships didn’t occur to me. My boyfriends weren’t meek or anything, they just wanted to please me, and I have […]

Saturday’s Topic

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This is going to be a busy weekend. We are having a CFNM party. For those of you who are new to kink, CFNM stands for clothed women, nude men. This is a giant leap into the world of our fun kinky lifestyle. It comes out of order since I was building up with the basics, but since we are having the party, it fits in now. And so my friends, if you’d like a little peek inside a wonderfully kinky kind of party, tune in on Saturday. Oh, and I bet you are REALLY curious why a lesbian would hold a party where naked men run around and serve us.

What’s In a Name? An Explanation of BDSM Roles 18 comments

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  What’s In a Name? An Explanation of BDSM Roles The roles I will be writing about today are based on my understanding of them. Others may have different views. I am in no way trying to wave my flag of experience and shout “These are the exact definition”. I am speaking of how I interpret them after witnessing many relationships in the BDSM community. Your mileage may vary. My explanations today are leaning towards basic definitions. We will get deeper into the intricacies of the different power exchange relationships in another Saturday post. I am also in no way passing any judgement on any of the roles. I am very supportive of other’s kink even if I do not understand it, practice it in my own relationships, or find it exciting, as long as it takes place between consenting adults and is done safely. Most of these roles take […]

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What the heck do all these different titles mean? The topic of Saturday’s kinky post will be defining the different roles and titles people in BDSM relationships identify with. there are an infinite number, so I will only address the most common ones. Tune in if this new topic makes you say hummm….. interesting. See you then!